I'm engaged and have been for about a month. My fiancée and I have known each other for over 2 years. A good portion of that time we were friends. From the time that we started dating seriously to the point that we got engaged was 4 months. She is now living with me and has been doing so for a week. I was apprehensive at the beginning when we first discussed it, but I have to admit that it has to be one of the best decisions that I have ever made. We get along great! However, we have a big problem. We are not having sex. We sleep together in the same bed, we are very affectionate, but the sex is not happening. She says it feels funny when we try because we were friends for so long, but is sure we will overcome the problem. It's difficult for me to feel comfortable making advances because she's not into it. We've made progress, but it not there yet. Has anyone experienced anything like this? Shall I take it a little at a time and if so, how?
2007-03-06 12:23:44 · 6 answers · asked by Northstarr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
never experienced it, but give it more time
2007-03-06 12:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is take it a little bit at a time and hope for the best. it may never happen though. you two were friends for like 20 months, which is a really long time to be friends before becoming bf and gf.
the thing about living with each other, and getting married and all of that, is that the sex will decline even more so once you get used to the relationship and get into the routine of it. this is why i say it may never happen; this is only normal if she has moral and religious reasons not to. if that isn't the case then you have to continue to build the relationship with her and hope for the best. myself i wasn't friends with my wife before the fact; i knew of her, but we didn't speak much until we were introduced to each other and from there it was pretty much a relationship from then out. we're good friends now though ...
2007-03-06 12:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel as tho if one of you is not comfortable enough to experience that level of love, then maybe marriage is not the best idea. breaking up would be an awful decision, and living together is still cool, but before you marry someone, you should be absolutely comfortable with them. waiting until marriage for sex is not a bad idea at all, but you should be WANTING to have sex w/ that person. so stay together, but leave the marriage talk alone for awhile.
2007-03-06 12:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is it that whenever a girl lives with a man it has to have sex? why can't you enjoy the times you have with her & not to spoiled the good times with sex? ppl's libido are different, more so with guys & girls, guys are born with a penis for their brain
2007-03-06 12:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh oh, theres a chance you could have been sorta friend-zoned, and she dosnt want to
i cant promise your relationship will work, but best of luck, you should try to take it slow
2007-03-06 12:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully i've never had anything like that happen to me in my life soo . . .. . uhhhhh . .. . .. try to figure it out i'm sure it will come . . . . . . or not . . . . .. I DON'T KNOW I'M SOOOORRYYYYY
2007-03-06 12:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋