my boyfriend took me for a drive today telling me he had 2 talk 2 me.we got to this place by the river and he held me and then started telling me stuff. about the time he liked me but i wasn't his gf yet and so he went to homecoming dance with another girl and almost had sex with her. and about the time he kissed his co-worker (who happens to be one of my friends) a few days after i took him to a girls choice dance. he's also told me about times him and his friends went cruising and picked up girls #'s. he said he was sorry about all of it. is it ok to be a little mad or am i overreacting? everything happened when we were dating but not yet bf/gf. i'm a little irritated. i don't know how he still feels about all these girls. he got this really stupid grin on his face when he was talking about the girl he went to the dance with. i know she's way hot but still. i almost feel like i'm not good enough. i feel like hes 1of a kind. but when i c these other girls i get ex. jealous!! now what?
2007-03-06 12:22:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he's with you now so just let the past be in the past and be thankful that he at least had the guts to tell you the truth even though i know it hurts. I have respect for him for telling the truth as long as from that point it's all about you and you only and i would talk to him about that. And you need to tell him that now you feel insecure because he lied to you so how are y'all gonna deal with that. Because he's got to come to the plate now and earn your trust back.
2007-03-06 12:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel the way you do. No one can take your feelings away. However, this was before you and him were serious. So, there was no committment. Although, it would have been better if he told you during the start of your relationship. He is being honest with you. And that is something that you should be proud of. However, it is hard to trust someone who has not been totally honest with you. I would be wary for awhile and tell him that it will be hard for you to trust him for awhile. Tell him that he can always tell you the truth and you should do the same. Why are just now starting to get jealous? Is it b/c you now know that other girls find him attractive. He is with you and that should prove to you that he wants to be with you!!
2007-03-06 20:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Aron H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U cant do anything hun. He just wanted to come clean, as u put it. He sounds like he is into u. He is so into u, that he opened up and told u everything.....and the reason he did, is because he feels he can trust u not to freak out. Now, u want to freak out. U cant!!!! lol
Dont fret over his past. Everyone has one. It would be nice if we didnt, but we all do.
Apparently the others dont mean anything, or he would be with them, not u.
You are who he wants or he wouldnt be so open with u. Dont ruint it girl.
Be mature and just ride with it. Keep telling yourself that if he wanted to be with them, he wouldnt be with u.
Dont get jealous over the other girls.......why would u?
U have him now, they dont. If anything, get a smirk of pride on your face when u see them.
He sounds real sweet, u got urself one that is open.....its hard to find these days.
Hang onto him hun. Hes a keeper.
Good luck.
2007-03-06 20:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was before you were truly exclusively seeing eachother, you really can't be too mad about the whole thing. I'm just wondering why he wanted to tell you all this now? Telling our new relationships about old ones isn't really going to help things. I would ask him how he feels about all these girls now since you are wondering and do not know. Let him know, that you understand it was before you were really dating and that's fine but hearing it makes you feel bad. Would he like to hear about your past? I doubt it. Since he brought it up, he should be open to discussing it with you. I would definitely talk about it since it is bothering you.
2007-03-06 20:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thr statement "you can't handle the truth" pops into my mind right now after reading your question. There is a reason he is telling you all of this "coming clean" as you state. You are putting the importance on the women, or the actions from the past. The important fact is he is telling YOU the present woman in his life this. No man tells about his past its like asking for a hole in your head. You women dont know what you want
2007-03-06 20:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by payne116 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know exactly how you feel. my girlfriend is talking to this guy in texas named steven. i am so mad. whenever i call he is always on the other line. also, she is very pretty. you wouldn't beleive it. and i'm the zero kid. i am the nerd, band geek, math whiz. and she is for lack of a better word, popular. i love her and she say she loves me but sometimes i doubt it. i don't like steven. he seems to be a "threat" to me and my relationship. but i can't do anything about that. he's her friend, but he wants to be more than friends. he comments her myspace and stuff and pics saying that she's perfect (what i say) and other stuff and how he wants to hook up with her. and i'm freaking out. i feel like my heart has been ripped into peices. but she denyed that guy. he still does it though and she doesn't delete the comments. and i'm a jealous guy. i am. but talk to him. get him to talk more. get him to get you to trust him. trust is everything. my relationship is falling apart because i don't know who i can trust. so get him to tell you everything. ask him if he'll do it again. get him to promise. everything. the whole shebang. if he doesn't, then dump him. you are right to be mad. you have every right to be mad. but just talk to him. this is my advice. this is the advice that i am to chicken to follow because i'm afraid of what she'll think of me. i'm afraid that she'll think that i'm posessive and in this day and age a guy can't be possessive. a girl has to be independent. but to a girl. a girl can be totally posessive and nothing would be wrong. any questions email me @ girkin90@Gmail.com
2007-03-06 20:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by jpwarzone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why in the world you would be upset its not like you found him out or that you 2 were even an item then he came clean with you and didnt even have to he really didnt do any thing wrong at that point. i think you should give him a big kiss for being a good guy. most guys wouldnt even let those things even cross thier minds i mean as far as coming clean.
2007-03-06 20:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not overreacting. Dump his a@@! Obviously, he is not ready to settle down for an even moderately-serious relationship, and that doesn't sound like it's what you need.
2007-03-06 20:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by idog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are not over reacting my bf did stuff with a girl when we were dating.. i was like so mad when he told me but he said it wasnt cheating because he wasnt my bf.. so be mad.. and let him know how you feel about thins... and rememebr atleast he told you.. he should have told you before but still he told... this doesnt mean you cant be mad, and distrusting...just be careful and talk to him about how you feel...
2007-03-06 20:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by lovepixiek 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave this guy. You will never be able to trust this guy. Do yourself a favor, and save yourself from more heart ache. Leave him now.
2007-03-06 20:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋