What are your feelings on the matter?
And what does Scripture teach us?
2007-03-06 12:09:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Bible teaches us that we are to love and respect our spouse. Loving your kids should just be a natural outflfow of your love for your spouse. According to the Bible standard, marriage is to be for the rest of your life...so you need to love your mate first... then your kids. They will be there by your side of 18 years, and then they will be off on their own, and you need to let them go and become adults of their own. Love lets them go. Encouraging them to be independent humans beings does not mean they are loved any less than when there were kids. Love is flexible and changing meeting the needs as they come.
2007-03-06 12:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is so much a matter of who you love MORE- but where your priorities lie.
The word says that the husband and wife are one flesh, you are not however, one with your children- they will eventually leave their mother and father and cleave to their own husband or wife.
It is wrong to neglect the husband wife relationship for the parent child relationship as when the children are gone, your spouse is still there- you have to be walking in one accord with your spouse and the children need to see that relationship as being most important under your relationship with God. Folly is bound in the heart of a child and if a child sees a crack in the parental relationship (to them it is a crack in authority) they will naturally play on it and manipulate it- the husband and wife have to be one, nurturing their relationship and being an example of oneness and unity to their children. What God has brought together, no man (and not even the children, consciously or unconsciously) have a right to tear it apart.
2007-03-06 12:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Each have a distinction on what kind of love should be given even if the intensity would be equal. A wife is to be loved with a promise of undiivided and uncondtional attention for as long as their lives exist together. Children have to be loved with a promise to take care of them and guide them until it is their time to let them have their own lives for themselves. Both love should always be 100% but each in a distinct category.
2007-03-06 12:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Scriptures teach: God First, Spouse Second, Children Third.
Exodus 21:5 ...I love my master, my wife, and my children...
2007-03-06 12:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Holy Holly 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
The first person you are suppose to love is Christ, then you love your wife because you both have to raise the children together. Eventually they will move out and move on with their lives and have children of their own. In the beginning it is you and your wife. When the kids grow up and leave it is you and your wife left. Until death it is you and your wife.
2007-03-06 12:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by 1DivineSistuh 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My feelings is that I should love my spouse and my kids equally. Though I have neither spouse or kids that is the way my parent have loved me. I have loved my parents equally. And that is the way I hope to love my family when my turn comes. God bless
2007-03-06 12:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by . 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wife - There is no better way to love your kids than love their mother first
2007-03-06 12:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Shimron 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I believe the scripture teaches us to love God above all.... love our husbands next... and our children next.... of course, i love my husband differently than i love my kids... so it is hard to say 'more' when it is just different, yanno?
learning the 'unconditional love' is the key tho... no matter what the spouse or children do, we are to love them.... now, some will just up and divorce their spouse at the slightest disagreement... which of course is not God's will at all!
2007-03-06 12:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It is possible to love them all equally.
I think you meant to say: In an emergency, if you could only save your wife and not your kids, or your kids but not your wife, who would you choose to save?
2007-03-06 12:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why pick or choose, there is a plenty of love to go around.
And what the world needs now is more love.
That's comes from the heart and not just the Holly Scripture.
Taught bye my mother, father and my kids.
2007-03-06 12:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋