Relationship Help.... I've been with this guy for roughly 9-10 months now and i'm not sure how i feel?

Question

about him. We were friends for 7 yrs before we got involved and in the beginning of the relationship i thought i was really falling for him until we hit a few hiccups where he seemed to distance himself from me (for eg. not sharing his problems, just generally being distant). I know that this had alot to do with him not being quite so over his ex g/f who he'd broken up with approx 8months prior to us getting together. So because he wouldn't open up to me i began to distance myself from him (not intentionally, i had to put up a wall for fear of being hurt). Now we're in a situation where i know he has now fallen for me whereas i no longer feel that way. I do want to be with him but i'm just not in love with him and i don't want to hurt him either. What should i do? End the relationship? Can someone pls give me their opinion/experience, thanks heaps

Everytime i've tried in the past to tell him how i feel, he gets annoyed and says that all relationships have problems and that ours aren't that serious.... He's the type of guy who gets angry/frustrated quite easily (although he would never get physical) and he so hard to communicate with, i feel like most of what i say goes in one ear and out the other!

Answer 1

Okay, this is what I think. I don't know you obviously but from your message, I have two things to say.
No relationship just floats along. You have to put the effort in. However, you say that you're just not in love with this guy anymore. Of course, it sucks to hurt somebody but if you don't love him, in the long run its much kinder to break up with him so that both you and him can find your real loves.
If you had said that you did love him but that you had built a wall up, then my advice would be totally different. In that case, I would say...you have to try to be honest and intimate, you have to fight for your love. But you said that you don't love him. So, in that case, you have to be strong and beak it off. I think you need some time just being you on your own, without a boyfriend, maybe to figure out who you are and when you do that and you are much happier, then your real love will come along
good luck

Answer 2

first I think you need to have a serious talk with him because acting as though nothing his wrong yall are going to end up hurting each other try going back to being just friends

Answer 3

the only way that springs to mind is tell him to slow rite down how can we be lovers if we can't be Friends