My boyfriend broke up with me today. He confessed he'd been cheating on me with a girl.?
i told him i wanted to work things out...he said he didnt want to. I said i still loved him. He said he didnt.
i feel so heart broken i cant describe how much pain im in right now. He was my first love, and i really believed he had genuine feelings towards me.The worst thing is i still love him, please tell me what should i do?
2007-03-06 11:49:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes he is cheating, now ask yourself is it worth the end of your relationship? Forgive him...
2007-03-10 10:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw.. sweetheart.. this is probably one of the toughest things anyone can go through.. I know, because I've been there. Although it doesn't seem like it right now, it is for the best that you guys aren't together anymore. He is scum. He is a coward that was too afraid to break up with you before he did stuff with someone else. He will wake up one day and realize what he had. The most important thing to realize is hat it isn't your fault. No matter how much you question what you could have done differently, the answer is nothing. It is a problem with him. Not you. This experience will make you a stronger person in the end. I know it hurts right now, but after you are finally over him (even though it feels like getting over him will NEVER EVER happen) you will realize that he is not even worth the ground you walk on. So keep your head up. I know it is hard to have any self-esteem or confidence right now, but there is someone out there who will treat you how you deserve to be treated, and that will love you for the beautiful person you are.
Good Luck Honey
2007-03-06 19:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he did have genuine eelings for you and you shouldnt beat yourself up over his mistakes- I know I didnt know him or anything (and I could be wrong here- if I am I'm sorry) but are you both still quite young- I dont at all mean that in a patronising way so please dont be offended!! The reason I say this is that men tend to matue at a slower rate than us ladies. They often are still learning about self control while at the same time they are buzzing with hormones and a constant drive to act on the hormones.
This is why I think he may well have had feelings towards you, but guys arent always up for just one girl, they do like to mix in afew more- while their hormones play with their heads.
It is unfortunate that this cr*p happened to you and I really feel for you, I dont think the cause was anything to do with you and I hope you agree with me on that.
I know its hard and you feel heart broken at the moment so just take it one step at a time until you feel able to take on more. Ignore his pleas for mercy after you remind him you are over- (unless you really are going in for a head bashed against a brick wall sensation here!) as he is likely to be being controleed by his pants.
Maybe he will learn to keep his ideas and his relationship in check one day, but unless he knows its banf out of order to treat people -escpecially ones close to him- like this, he will keep on repeart offending. All you can do is try protect those he meets by letting thm know what an immature child he really is.
2007-03-06 22:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a F***en Idiot he is, Seriously any guy who cheats on a girl is a complete jerk. You dont want to be with someone like this trust me he thinks of himself and his willy.
Stop thinking with your heart at pressent because it will only get you down be strong and think to yourself that you dont need him and you deserve better. Cos YOU DO DESERVE only the BEST!!!
You can have anything or anyone you want you have to be strong suger. Im sory to here this and your heart must be crushed but right now you have to be strong and keep your chin and shoulders back.
Remember there is plenty of fish in the sea and you can CHOOSE whichever one you want and have high standards if they arnt nice then throw him back in.
All the best hunny, theres plenty of people on earth who care about you, hang out with your friends. Good luck Nat
2007-03-06 20:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I not surprised you still love him, unfortunately you can't turn love off like a tap. Time turns it off and you will realise one day soon, he's not worth poop if he can do that to you. Sounds to me like you have had a lucky escape, do you really want a bf who is unfaithful? When you could have a bf who is faithful. Don't whatever you do contact him, let him miss you. He may well be in contact as he might feel gulity but be strong. Chin up, no point mopeing around you have got the rest of your life to get on with girlfriend!! :o) x
2007-03-06 20:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to get past the pain. But you will fall in love again with someone else. Don't let this deter you in the future from meeting another guy. There are guys that won't cheat on you behind your back.
2007-03-06 19:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by kws504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep really busy it will help you get your mind off the pain. Go out with your friends and family and have fun. Just don't think about him. He's not worth thinking of if he hurt you like that. Find you another guy who won't break your heart the way that he did. There are guys out there who are out there that are way better then him.
2007-03-06 19:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to him, dont msg him, do nothing. he is already over you and proven that by cheating on you and telling you straight out he doesn tlove you anymore. how can you continue to respect someone who obviously doesnt respect you? if you keep letting yourself have feelings for him you are going to get more hurt, resentful, bitter and down right mad at him.. just try and move on as soon as possible, i dont mean go and find the next guy and date him, but just start seeing your friends again, hang out with them, go out clubbing, do things that make HIM be taken off your mind, its not healthy for you to be dwelling on this. i realise its hard when you 'think' you still love him, but how can you truly say you have the same feelings for you when hes confessed taht while he was with you, he was going be hind your back with another chick - not just seing her, but having sex with her too, then lying to you about it all and telling you how good you are. he is completely untrustworthy, disrespectful, a liar, a cheater who doesnt care for you and youre sitting there saying that you still love him.. that it all doesnt matter and that he can do those things to you in a relationship and get away with it? girl dont be so naive and forgiving! this guy delibrately hurt you trust me, he didnt give a rats as$ about you when he was f!cking that b!tch! hes jsut not the one for you, so it means the one is still ou tthere to be found, good luck!!
2007-03-06 20:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darling, i went through the same thing. and now that i found the real 'the one' hehe... i realized... he treated me like crap. he said the same things that you are saying. he honestly doesnt want to be with you and it sucked but you need to move on. seriously go out and dont sit home and do nothing. i sat home for like 4 months pouting about it and when i finally started going out again, i found the love of my life. and you are probably thinking, 'well this is different, i really love him'....well... you deserve better then that... he isnt making you happy because he doesnt love you, find something you love. please =]
2007-03-06 19:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your self is to move on and ignore him. There is a big possibility hell try and come around if he sees that your not paying him any attention. If that's what happens ignore him and don't look back thats the best revenge you can give him.
2007-03-06 20:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋