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i work full time so does he and we both split our household bills 50/50 so why does he leave all this stuff for me to do?yes i have asked for help and he will say things like "you have more time than me" just because i have a 9-5 job and he has to stay late somedays to work on "projects" i should not have to do all the work at home.or he will say he will help later,well "later" never comes and we end up fighting over it after a nagg him about it.

2007-03-06 11:29:07 · 9 answers · asked by carro89moridn 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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That's ridiculous. I wouldn't put up with it. You should either split everything up (you do your laundry and grocery shopping/cooking, he does his, etc) or you should trade off. Or you divy up the tasks according to what you mind the least. I love grocery shopping and hate laundry, for example. Come up with a chore schedule and stick to it. We all have tough jobs -- doesn't mean we can be lazy when it comes to housework.

2007-03-06 11:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0 0

If you don't have children now don't have any til you resolve this. I have been married twice. I finally had to realize if I lived alone I'd be doing all the work at home and supporting myself too. When I got breast cancer, thank God he was here. Ask yourself this:do you want peace or do you want to be right? I would stop doing his laundry. I would not cook meals if he is not home for dinner. Who did these things for him before you took pity on him. And for heavens sake shut up. No man wants to hear our crap-they believe this like Christians believe in God. Just make a list of chores and what needs done on what day, give yourself 2 days off. You can do this I did. Still married to #2. He now vacuums all the floors and uses the floor cleaner too. He does his own laundry and I don't do all the cooking or shopping. We share.

2007-03-06 11:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0 0

traditionally, YES. My wife and I made a deal a long time ago. Fixin stuff is my job. Feeding is hers. If he is a lazy bum, that's another story.

Simple solution (never nag) : Quit buying stuff he likes, and screw up ironing his clothes. When he complains, simply ask him to "show you" how he likes it done. Then continue to tell him all the light bulbs that are burnt out in the house. (or something like that..)

Also, don't listen to these feminist answers. You didn't Marry a lesbian. you married a Man. Men behave differently to comments than do womem.

2007-03-06 11:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sparky 4 · 0 0

Tell him how you feel. If you guys can work the bills out 50/50 tell him you guys can split chores around the house 50/50. Tell him your his wife not his maid.

2007-03-06 11:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0 0

No way! It's completely unfair for him to assume that you should do the house work! Tell him this, and make sure that you are assertive and confident when you do. The two of you should split the house work as equally as possible!

2007-03-06 11:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 0 0

If you cook leave the dishes. If he cooks clean up after him. Have equal shares, the way my parents used ot do it was a simple choir chart, it switched around and rotated, and they just added us on as me and my brother got older. Their 22nd anneversary is this year.

2007-03-06 11:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Dez K 2 · 0 0

Everything else is 50/50, so why not the housework? Your husband is being insensitive and sexist. Demand justice.

2007-03-06 11:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

let some of the things go and when he complains tell him if he would help then it would be done or sit him down and tell him that hes got to start helping if that doesnt work then just do you dishes, clothes and things and leave his for himself to do

2007-03-06 11:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0 0

he should make time to help out
otherwise it's not fair
don't put up with his crap

2007-03-06 11:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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