is it always the "wife's job" to do the cleaning,cooking,grocery shopping,laundry ect?

Question

i work full time so does he and we both split our household bills 50/50 so why does he leave all this stuff for me to do?yes i have asked for help and he will say things like "you have more time than me" just because i have a 9-5 job and he has to stay late somedays to work on "projects" i should not have to do all the work at home.or he will say he will help later,well "later" never comes and we end up fighting over it after a nagg him about it.

Answer 1

Although I like the way your husband thinks, that kind of thinking went out when Fred and Wilma Flintstone were in vogue. Keep your chins up and maybe your husband will clean the remote control after he uses it.

Answer 2

You do more have time than he does. You also need some help since you are a full time worker on the job and at home.

Take the Laundry out of your equation-
One solution that works is to take your laundry in to be done. You drop it in the morning and pick it up that afternoon or the next evening. It works great and really isn't that much more, plus it saves you so much time, the clothes are folded and ready to be put away. You can put his away or leave them for him to put away.

Give yourself a cleaning break and still keep the house nice-
Another great thing is to have a part time house keeper for one day. This can be once a week, once every two weeks or once a month. You would be surprised how much even once a month will do to keep things in order, especially if you have the laundry deal.

The last helpful hint is to have a dine in/dine out night once every two weeks. It allows you both some together time, no dishes for clean up and no time spent cooking. It can be relaxing, romantic or refreshing-that's up to you two. You could even use it as time to plan what you will do the next month and still not interfer too much with his work project time.

What you don't want is to get so piled with all the work that youresent being the wife, the cook, the everything and still bringing home the bread! You also do not want to nag and fight because you both will resent each other. Have a plan and some prices ready when you bring up this subject so you both can look at it in a reasonable light. I am praying for you both.

Answer 3

It's good to have a man, feel like a man and a women like a women. But he should have respect for your home too, and keeping it clean. Most marrige's end in divorce because of money issues, the others because of communication. But I am afraid, the more you nag..the less he is going to want to do. Try doing the shopping during the days you have off together, so you can buy things you both like. On weekend's do baburcues, so he can cook. As for the cleaning just try not to nag and more than likely he will do more. Or if all else fails...don't wash his clothes, do yours only....

Answer 4

No...it is definately not the wifes job to do all that ! Marriage is a 50/50 relationship ... You both should work as a team and do these things !!! No person in todays society, has the time to do all the work themselves ....

Tell him to smarten his *** up !!!

This isnt 1950, where most ladies were stay at home moms .... Tell him to grow up !!! =)

Answer 5

personally i dont think that it is just the womens job. when u r in a relationship then u should split things equally. if u were a stay at home wife/mother then maybe the roles would be reversed. but if u both work and u both bring in income then u should split the daily house cleaning and duties around the house.


stop doing his laudry for about a week and see if he opens his eyes that it is NOT ALL ABOUT HIM!!!

Answer 6

My suggestion would be if you split the bills 50/50 then split the cost of a maid to come in once a week and help you out. Men are notorious for not wanting to do their share of housework because it was the way they were raised.
Good luck!!

Answer 7

in my opinion everything should be 100/100. no that isnt a typo... everyone should help with 100% of the chores and duties, etc. Each do half of the chores and swap each week or do some things together like shopping. you shouldn't have to do it all.

Answer 8

Then I would stop doing his laundry and cooking him dinner. Luckily my spouse helps out. But I also tell him the more he helps out, the more time I will have for us to be together as well.

Answer 9

There should not be any quesion approximately it. i've got continuously achieved enjoyed ones chores alongside with each and all the above. yet i do no longer think in any so called equivalent distribution of chores. If it needed doing and the spouse hadn't gotten around to it, then I did it. and that i've got not intentionally left something for her to do. and that i do no longer agree along with your 50/50 chop up of costs. All our money is going into the financial company ( different than for a splash mad money we the two shop out) and each and all the costs are paid from that account. Joint judgements are made if we pick to purchase something, whatver the fee. and that i prepare dinner to boot. i assumed that replaced into the way a marriage replaced into meant to artwork. i like to wreck my spouse. i don't be attentive to what i could do without her, and that i actually do no longer pick to be certain.

Answer 10

Let me know when you find out. I find that my fiance stays late to avoid doing house choirs. Sucks!