Ok.. so the deal is that my older sister is still really good friends with a guy I dated on and off for a few years. Me and the guy eventually didnt work out: mainly do to how he treated me (rude nicknames, never paid me back $$ I lent him, never gave me rides when he had committed to doing so, cheated on me (w several girls, including my sister), and the final straw - he slapped me). He has since moved back to the area, and my sister has chosen to remain one of his best friends despite everything he has done to me. I have told her that it really bothers me, without asking her to not be his friend- Anyways, so now I don't even get to hang out with her bc I refuse to have to hang out w/him... and since they are together alot, I just don't get to see her. We don't talk anymore bc I told her I don't want to here about him, and he is this focal point in her life now, so there isn't much she can tell me that doesn't include him. Do I have a right to feel betrayed by her? How do I deal?
2007-03-06 11:24:36 · 3 answers · asked by Heart of Gold 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how it feels when someone in your family takes the side of someone who is not...I have been there! You have to be patient. If you can't do that, you need to talk to your sister and REALLY explain to her how you feel and how much this is hurting you BUT do not show your anger! cos you might sound a little on the bratty side. And yes you do have a right to feel betrayed! His true colors will come out sooner or later! Just be patient and be there for her when he betrays her! Good luck!
2007-03-06 11:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the first time she has betrayed you, so it's not a surprise. She is not going to change. She's sleeping with him so he's more important than you are. Just accept it.
Is your character better than hers? Have you learned from your experience? Then move on and find people that you have more in common with. She's not going to help you find a better life.
2007-03-06 12:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have been in a similar situation with my girl. who is friends with some prick who has been rude to me every since i met him and I can honestly say I just told her that if she feels that strong about him being her friend then do it, but it is disrespectful for her to carry on with this friendship, cause I personally would not put her in those shoes and it took awhile but she not longer talks about or hangs out with retard. But I can also say that family comes first and she needs to understand that also with how he treated YOU!!!!! is not cool and she should know that!
2007-03-06 11:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Iraq vet in need of help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋