i told him i wanted to work things out...he said he didnt want to. I said i still loved him. He said he didnt.
i feel so heart broken i cant describe how much pain im in right now. The worst thing is i still love him, please tell me what should i do?
2007-03-06 11:19:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes he is cheating, now ask yourself is there anything you can do? No!!! Move on...
2007-03-10 10:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...if you are 17 or younger you don't need a boyfriend! God will help you find a good a good moral man when you are old enough! I don't understand why the youth today always thinks they need a boyfriend just because it's cool or you want someone to have love with. Like I said if you are 17 or younger than all you should be worried about is school. Just read what I say...God said you are supposed to wait until he says it's time when you don't do that and get together with him it's pointless teen boys and girls are not responsible enough at this time to take on a serious relationship. They NEED to wait...this is why there are so many breakups, because it's not like your going to be together forever in the first place. He or she will probably just dump him or her.
If you are 18 or older I am sorry about the relationship. It was a strong thing to give him the offer of working it out. You probably just didn't do something he wanted you to do with him...like kiss or something I don't know I'm getting into it. It's a real hard thing. I can understand you still love him. I still like the guy who was disrespectful towards my friend even though it was wrong what he did I shouldn't have feelings for him. You'll get through it. God always has a plan. Everything will work out just fine.
2007-03-07 14:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tina,
the guy cheated on you - someone you would love you would not do such a thing.
the guy TOLD you he doesn't want to work out things because he doesn't love you.
Don't mix up your feelings. You may think you still love him but in fact are just afraid of being alone, try to reverse the situation to escape pain or else.
You have been treated badly and you have deserved better. Keep your chin up and walk away in dignity, don't be further humiliated by trying to win this looser back, once a cheater, always a cheater. Respect yourself lass, you have deserved better and you will find a better lad.
2007-03-10 06:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't love you and who has cheated on you for so long? Don't sell yourself short. What you need is some distraction. Go out with a few friends...Shopping always does the trick. It will not take away the love for your guy but the distraction will gradually make your feelings for him go away...
I know how much it hurts but trust me, you will be fine and who knows?? You might meet someone way better than the guy who cheated on you...Just hang in there....
One more thing...It's ok to cry about it for a while but don't make yourself sick doing so....
2007-03-06 19:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by honeycinnebun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST AND FOREMOST, I AM SORRY THAT YOU STILL LOVE THIS JERK... BUT PLEASE DONT BEG THIS LOSER... HE CHEATED AND HAS BROKEN YOUR HEART, HE EVEN WALKED ALL OVER YOU BY SAYING THAT HE DIDNT LOVE YOU ANYMORE!! I THINK HE MUST HAVE NOT EVER LOVED YOU IF HE STOPPED SO SUDDENLY LOVING YOU BECAUSE TRUST ME LOVE DOES NOT FADE AWAY, WHICH YOU KNOW AND ARE EXPERIENCING RIGHT NOW... ANYWAY TIME HEALS ONLY IF YOU LET IT> I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME AND IT IS SAD. I DO NOT KNOW THE WAY THINGS HAVE BEEN FOR YOU TWO OR HOW LONG THE RELATIONSHIP WAS BUT I WAS SO DUMB THAT I CALLED MY EX OVER AND OVER DAY IN AND DAY OUT PLEADING BECAUSE I LOVED HIM>SAD I KNOW BUT THEN FINALLY I WAS DOING OKAY WITH THE HELP OF FRIENDS AND PRAYING FOR THE STREGNTH TO GO ON AND I SWEAR THE DAYS I STOPPED CALLING HE REALIZED AND STARTED CALLING ME... LIKE AN IDIONT I TOOK HIM BACK> THIS WENT ON FOR 4 YEARS AND FINALLY I STOPPED TAKING HIM BACK... I MISS HIM A BIT AND LOVE HIM STILL BUT IT WAS FOR THE BETTER AND NO GIRL DESERVES TO GET TREATED LIKE SOME GUYS TOY WHEN EVER HE FEELS LIKE PLAYING... I HOPE YOU HAVE THE STREGNTH TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM AND NOT CALL HIM> ITS HARD ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE AND I BET MONEY ON THE FACT THAT HE WILL CALL YOU WHEN HE'S DONE PLAYING AND I JUST HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION> JUST DONT PLAY INTO HIS MIND GAMES AND LET IT BE FOR NOW WAIT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS> AND LIKE THE SAYING GOES:
IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET THEM GO,
AND IF IT IS MEANT TO BE THEY WILL COME BACK TO YOU
YOU DESERVE BETTER AND I HOPE YOU GET IT... I AM NOT ALL RELIGIOUS BUT AT NIGHT I WOULD PRAY THROUGH THOSE HARD TIMES AND ASK FOR THE STREGNTH TO GO ON AND NOT CALL MY EX, AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT IT HELPED... ALSO I KEPT BUSY AND HUNG OUT WITH FRIENDS AS MUCH AS I COULD CAUSE IT SEEMED I ONLY GOT ALL DOWN WHEN I WAS BY MYSELF DOING NOTHING OR AT NIGHT, SO JUST KEEP BUSY FOR AWHILE... I WISH YOU LUCK & FEEL YOUR PAIN
2007-03-06 19:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't get him back. The thing is over now. People change all the time. The only thing u can do is to move on with ur life. Who needs a bf anyways? U have ur friends and all the other good things in life. Just move on with ur life and live happily.
2007-03-06 19:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by AlvaDaGansta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks right now, but your better off. A big part of the problem is your total lack of self respect. No one will respect you if you don't first respect yourself. Why the hell would you want to be with someone who obviously doesn't give a rats *** about you. Tell yourself that he didn't deserve you and that you ARE too good for him. Now you gotta believe it, because it's probably true.
2007-03-06 19:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe you still wanted to be with him after his confession. He doesn't love you then get over it, I'm sure there are so many guys out there that would love to be with you. You deserve something better. Girl power!!!
2007-03-06 19:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, another one of these. Yes, you do still love him, but face it, he says he didn't love you. Go home, cry your heart out, you will be over it in about 3 months. You will go through a grieving process.
Go out w/your friends, take care of yourself and try to be happy.
Think about this phrase, say it over and over to yourself - "things are better" and trust me, they will be.
2007-03-06 19:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an efigy of him and burn it outside his house. It'll make you feel better, give you "closure" and will put his new bit of stuff on edge for a while wondering what the crazy ex might do next...
2007-03-06 19:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋