I have a 17 month old son who is a only child. At daycare he pulls other peoples hair, pushes kids over, even pulls on their clothes. I have bought my son a doll so he can play with its hair and he is soft. He is also soft with my hair. I dont know where he gets it, we are not rough at home. I need some feedback.
2007-03-06 11:18:47 · 9 answers · asked by cadarin04 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Why would that be normal? My son did those things and they said he was "aggressive." It's not "normal" but it is not really abnormal.
2007-03-06 11:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too young to understand that he is hurting other kids. He is testing out cause and effect, and unfortunately it is at the expense of the other children.
Whoever is there watching him needs to re-enforce "soft" and "gentle." When he is pulling hair she/he needs to walk over and release his hand and make him stroke the hair gently and tell him that is nice. If he pushes that person needs to re-enforce "no push...owie!"
He is at a tough age where if he does comprehend your point it is soon lost because toddlers have very short term memory.
If he starts to play aggressively I would say he needs to be directed to kicking a ball or something hands-on that is positive.
What does the daycare teacher say?
2007-03-06 11:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal but not appropriate, This is a Fantastic opportunity for you to step in and use YOUR influence to do what's right. Nip it in the bud fast or it will be the ticked off parents of the kid your boy is bullying getting into you business and questioning your parenting skills. Just imagine how you would react if a child was constantly harassing your kid.
2007-03-06 11:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Matticus Kole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same trouble with my first born son, he was really rough, because he didn't know how to interact with any kids, just mommy and daddy, it could be caused because he IS an only child. My son was like that with kids his age, but not with me, my husband or the new baby [back then that is] i started making play dates for him. it helped a lot you should try it sometime
2007-03-06 11:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lexii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's just say it's not appropriate. He needs to learn that others have feelings too and the way to do that is every time he hurts anyone squeeze his hand not enough to hurt him but enough to let him know. Keep a gentle pressure for a few seconds and say no, you must not pull.. or push or whatever.
2007-03-06 12:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, teaching and learning begin since the first touch of life. 17 months old, not a baby anymore.
COMMUNICATION. and it takes a lot of effort and time,, also patience.Its great to mold a child into a good virtued human being.Do somethin as soon as possible to stop his behavior. If u dont, just start saving for his bail and stock thousand of boxes of tissues for your tears.
2007-03-06 11:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its anything you are or are not doing i think he is use to having all the attention on him so to share at his age is hard my best friends daughter is the same way be positive as much as possible and it will take some time but it will be OK
2007-03-06 11:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still a baby. I wouldn't worry about it. Now, if he's doing it when he's 17 yrs old, that's a problem.
2007-03-06 11:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by the_skipper_also 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not normal but this kind of behavior should be stopped
2007-03-06 12:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋