Why am I still single????

Question

The ladies I work with, my ex, my female friend all talk about how attractive I am. I am smart, humorous, responsible, and kind hearted. I have a few flaws which I continue to work on. My two serious relataionships were with girls who went after me. I kinda forced myself to go out with them because they seemed like good matches. I wasn't really attracted but I sometimes wonder if am too picky. The girls I really like don't return the interest. And the girls who like me.. I am not attracted to at all. But I am not forcin myself to date a girl anymore. Just this past week I went on a short date with a girl. She stands out as someone I really want to see again. But guess what!? When I mentioned calling her again and going out again she didn't show a bit of interest. She didn't answer or return my call. But there are several girls who are interested in me right now. Of course I only like them as a friend. I am thirty one and still single. Help!!!!

I am told I am attractive without me asking. ONe of the ladies at work ( a teacher ) is getting close to sexual harrassment.

Answer 1

go out with them,,,have a good time,,,,don't stress about it,,,,When you least expect it the right one will come along and you both will know it

Answer 2

One thing that is kind of funny, the more open and honest you are upfront, the less someone else has to guess about. The very thing people find attractive is the hint of mystery the thrill of finding out. Be a little more mysterious and don't show your cards all out at the beginning. Also being a little more agressive is a plus as well. You said you were the pursued one all the time, flip the roles, because as a man you need to take a few risk to get what you want out of life. I know it may be nerve wracking, but think about this.

If what you have been doing so far isn't getting you the results you want, you have to change what you're doing. Trial and error even applies to relationships, you find what you DON'T want by mistake most of the time. Then you learn from it.

Simply put a little change wouldn't be bad and it will definetly make you feel good about yourself.

Answer 3

I’ve always noticed men & women think so much differently. A common question I’ll ask especially to someone I’ve dated is a report. I know it sounds lame, but I’ll totally ask a girl what they thought about me. I’ll start out with something like “since we stopped dating I feel comfortable with asking you from a woman’s perspective what was I like to you? Did you think of me as mediocre, Pushy, Secretive maybe there’s something you think I should work on? Do I give off a just a just want to be your friend type of guy?” Anyone I’ve stopped dating has always given me a 100% honest answer. This will help you see yourself from a girl’s angle, which is what you want. Then you can start working on what’s called your “blind self”.

Answer 4

you cant be too picky...although you have to let your guard down sometimes with some people (as it seems you did with the two relationships you've had), sometimes it just doesnt work. you have to have the initial connection/"spark" that you feel with that other person. it really is sort of like finding one out of a million when it comes to the 'right' relationship. Dont get into them if you cant see yourself with that person in the long run! make sure you have strong feelings for them, not because you feel 'sorry' or are desperate.

Answer 5

Happiness is the exception...NOT the rule.

I've been single for 46 years, yet I am highly educated, been told I look like/should be a model(so I must be somewhat attractive), and finding that needle in the haystack is elusive.

Also, make SURE you don't let a 'keeper' get away.

Answer 6

I think being single is fine. It lets you have time for yourself. I also feel you need to set boundaries and not to many of them or not enough. If you take what you can get, your asking for trouble in the relationship and alot of it. maybe not right away or maybe at that moment but just do your best and date the women you find interest in and who interest you.

Answer 7

Dude. Chill!
Life doesn't end at 31. In fact I'd say it gets better!
Have you tried internet dating like Yahoo Personals? That's where I met my wife.

Answer 8

Girls are scum.

Also, guys are scum.

People are scum.

I know! Let's blow up the earth!

Honestly, though. Being single isn't bad.

I've been single for years. Years and years and years. 22 of them. Well, most of them I wasn't legal, but you get the point.

Answer 9

tell me do u talk about yourself all the time when on dates,are u afraid of commitments,i think u need to look deep with with yourself.your know why u want to remain single.

Answer 10

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