I trust my g/f completely, so no1 say anythign about "U need to just trust her" and stuff like that. But she is getting into the i want to hit the clubs and stuff like that when she knows that isnt my scene really. Im not the clubbing party type, but she is when its brought to her i guess, I feel weird when she says she wants to go and such cuz the thought of my g/f grinding on some other guys and them feeling on her and such cant not happen. I want to bring it up to her that i would perfer if she didnt dance with guys at a club, but i dont want her to think that im douting her faithfulness. She knows im insecure, and i trust her more then anything. But that thought doesnt do it for me. If she gets all like mad or defensive what do i do? Im not gonna jsut sit back and let her make the rules. I dont like/want her to grind or dance with guys at clubs. But i dont want her to get mad at me for my forwardness about the topic. No SANE b/f wants his girl at a club dancing on other guys.
2007-03-06 11:06:28 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats probably not wat even happen u should ask her and say if u want me to go dancing then u have to do suttin i want to do...?....c how it works out!!
2007-03-06 11:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by ecuaadorianprincess001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH YOU! me and my husband finally came to an agreement when we were "dating" awhile back that whatever he wouldnt like me doing that he cant do and what i wouldnt like him doing i wouldnt do....
we are very trusting of eachother but come on... when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend you should know out of RESPECT not to let some other guy or girl grind on you!! thats just wrong and if your girl cant understand that then i think that theres a problem... but then also why dont you just go to the clubs with her and not dance if thats your problem and take some of your guy friends, i mean you gotta put into the relationship too, to be able to come to some agreement>good luck man, but if that were me there would not be no way my man would be grinding on some other girl and same for me> might as well be cheating because they are already getting half of the package feeling on her.
good luck and i hope i helped:)
2007-03-06 11:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your right I wouldn't want my girlfriend grinding on some other guy. i think maybe you can suggest her to go dancing with her girlfriends so she can dance with them and not the guys there. Or you can simply be straight forward and lay down the law and tell her that she can't go clubbing. I know that she would get mad but in a relationship sacrifices must be made and for her she must forget the club scenes and understand that you dont like all that and would rather do other things with her.
2007-03-06 11:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by brklynkid23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships are two way streets. Instead of trying to keep her at home why don't you go out to the club with her?
Why not take her dancing? Or take dancing classes together?
Why must she stay at home w/o her friends and dancing...because you said so? Because it makes you sad and insecure? Get off your a$$ and take her. Show some interest in what she likes - even if you don't like it.
My wife drags me to kitchen and bath expos all the time. Talk about boring...OMG shoot me. But I go. Because I love her and I realize that I should support her and her interests too (no matter how freakin' boring they are)
2007-03-06 11:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by jw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should go with her and check it out. Maybe she just wants to dance. If she doesn't want you to go, she may be hiding something. Nobody goes to clubs to sit there. If she doesn't have a problem grinding on other guys on the dance floor, she may not have a problem grinding them off the dance floor either.
2007-03-06 11:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Candace A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is to go with her. Why wouldn't you want to go to the club with your chick? Even if it's not your "scene" you could still go and probably still have fun. The truth is that most girls who have boyfriends that go to clubs are faithful to their man, but they also still dance and grind with guys all night. It's a good ego stroke to have guys giving them attention. You are not her father so you are not going to be able to tell her what to do. I'm sure you wouldn't want her to tell you what to do either. So if you don't like it you should either break up with her or decide to like clubbing.
2007-03-06 11:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by Party Bum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her, i dont feel comfortable with you dancing with the guys when you go, bcuz some guys are unpredictable and might hurt you, and i dont want anything to happen to u. I think its disrespectable to dance CLOSE with a guy when u are with someone, but if ur dancing with friends in a group and all are dancing then I dont see a problem. (theres certain limits to this statement). I went to a club with some friends of mine and i ended up getting pinned up to the wall and groped. I was so freakin pissed and was freaking out because there was two of them. I yelled for my friends and got outta the situation, but I dont know your gf or her friends and some guys are alot stronger than girls. groups in numbers are good bcuz they will make sure shes okie. I wish yall the best of luck with this situation.
sumup - sit down and have a talk with her and just let her know that u feel its disrespectful for her to grind with other guys. its not a jealous thing, its a safety thing.
2007-03-06 11:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Witchy Poo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, u r a bit jealous but thats ok. The thing is this....u cant prohibit her from doing what she wants to do. If she chooses to go to the clubs then u need to let her go..
However, its not too much to ask that she not grind around on another guy. That is disrespectful to u. So, u have to ask her what type of dancing, if any, she is planning on doing. If she says she will dance with other men, then u need to ask her what kind of dancing she will be doing.
Explain to her your feelings, but dont put it in terms of putting restrictions on her. She will take offense, because she will feel like u dont trust her.
However, the logical thing for her to do, is to tell u that she will not grind dance with any other fellas. Thats the answer u want to get from her. Try to get that answer.
If she loves u, and respects u, she wont be doing that anyway.
I was married for 12 years. I went out to clubs with my gf's on girls night outs. My hubby was like u, didnt get into the clubbing thing. But, I loved to get out and dance. I would dance with other men, but nothing touchy feely, or no grinding. Just harmless dancing is what i engaged in. He knew that I danced with other men, but knew the type of woman i was and didnt think twice about it.
This is where u need to be with your gf. Determine the type of woman she is, and then figure out what u need to do to ease your mind.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-06 11:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be a little concerned if my girl was grinding with other guys at the club... would seem to me thats a little sexual. You said you totally trust her, so would you trust that she might just dance with her girlfriends and shut down other guys.. alot of girls i know like to go to the clubs to dance, and find alot of club guys super creepy. What it comes down to, is if you trust her as much as you say you do, you are going to have to swallow it and see what happens. If you are feeling a little too hinky about it, then you are also going to have to swallow it, and go with her to the clubs. To me thats the simplest answer... if you are worried about other guys giving her alot of attention at a club, then go with her and be the one to give her that attention.
Good luck man... hope it passes over for you
2007-03-06 11:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the contrary, I would not trust her. Like you said, no sane b/f wants his girl at a club dancing on [sic] other guys. Why isn't she wanting to spend this time with you instead. Okay, so maybe she doesn't want to get serious with you or anyone else at this time, but I would adjust your commitment to the relationship accordingly. Two can play at that game.
2007-03-06 11:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok well first of all you can tell you don't go out much cause you don't knwo the first thing about what really happens when girls go out together.
I have a bf, and I go out alot with my girl friends to clubs, bars, anywhere. And we love love love to dance...but here's the thing, we dance with ourselves. Most girls (note I say most cause some are different) dance only with their friends. There are sometimes guys that want to come up and approach you - but not nearly as often as you think.
We always got out with a group of at least 4 or 5...at least. So it is imtimadating for guys to even approach. There is very rare circumstances when horribly nasty things happen at clubs/bars - unless your chick is nasty like that or goes toplaces like that.
Try and ease up a bit, and if that doesn't work go out with your friends to a couple clubs and check out what it is like.
2007-03-06 11:18:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋