how can i stop my 12 yearsold one to stop hiting my 6 years old one i yell at him and take stuff away and it not working.
2007-03-06 11:04:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Show the 12 yr old info on ADHD and maybe that will help him understand why the 6yr old acts like that. Give him the responsibility of being the big sister/brother. Kids like responsibility.
If that doesnt work, do a point rewards system.
For a day or a week that he/she doesnt hit the other one give him/her reward or something to look forward to. If they do hit, then the privilege/award it taken away.
2007-03-06 17:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by pinkmalibu442 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that the reason why he is hitting his little brother is because of the attention that he is getting possibly because of his ADHD? It is possible that your older son is jealous of the time that is spent concentrating on his younger brother. My advice would be to take your son out for a night alone with you and your husband. Take him out to dinner, and maybe to a movie, his choice. Leave his younger brother with a sitter. While you are at dinner, talk to him. Ask him why he is hitting his brother, ask if there is something going on in school, ask him if his brother is doing something to bother him. Ask him anything that you can think of that might be the root of the problem. If he opens up to you thats fantastic. Make sure that you and your husband are giving him adequate attention, and that his little brother is not being a constant nuisance. Kids this age are just starting to go through puberty and they do need their space from younger brothers and sisters.
If he doesnt open up, I would tell him that if he doesnt feel comfortable talking to your or your husband about this, then you are going to set him up with an appointment to see a therapist. AND THEN FOLLOW THROUGH ON IT! If might not be a bad thing for him to see a therapist, alone and then possibly a family session. Since he is going through puberty, he might be dealing with feelings of inadequecy, and changes to his body, and hormonal changes as well. Hormones can play a big part of it, and it can also lead to depression in young teens. If after your talk to feel like your son is depressed, please talk to his doctor, they can help him not only with medication (if that is the route you choose), but also they have alternatives to medication that he can try as well.
I wish you good luck, because you will need it, the teen years are some of the roughest years you will experience.
2007-03-06 11:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by jayde_eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend time with both boys separately. It sounds like your 12 year old is jealousy of his brother because the younger one gets more attention because he is ADHD. I have two sons that have it and I refused to give them medication because it dopes them up. They are grown now and are fine. My youngest graduated with honors. Set aside a time for each boy and spend equal time. Also maybe try to get your 12 year old after a time to show his younger brother things and do things with him. Just don`t push him into it. Yell and taking things away will not help because that is his way of getting your attention.
2007-03-06 12:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever called those boys mothers and dads? i could press costs of attack on the lads and talk on your boys friends mothers and dads approximately doing a similar! Juvy could straighten those punks out! different than that i could pass to the courts and get restraining orders against each and all the lads, carry documents that they have been abusing your son ongoing and that i'm particular you could no longer have a situation. If he gets harm lower back on the college then pass to the critical and insist that any boys in contact are EXPELLED. If she says thats too dramatic no and so on. tell her she would have the capacity to anticipate to hearken to out of your criminal expert and you will sue! the situation has been ongoing, the college knows approximately it, and that they at the instant are not doing sufficient to guard your son.
2016-11-28 02:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to make sure he takes his med on time i had the same situation you really may want to have the older one checked also remind the older one that he is not perfect you must take strong action while there small as a reprieve mine our now grown and best friends believe it or not i know it seems totally impossible now my prayers are with you i remember way to well the challenge
2007-03-06 12:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by ladysosureone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to start with i don't believe in Adah and the drugs that they put these poor kids on but that's a different question.
time out in the shower and no play time or going out with friends when he does hit or even thinks of hitting.we had that problem here and trust me hitting has been cut down by 99% due to doing this and we have 6 kids.
2007-03-06 11:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by luckylovelee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must step up on your personal time with boys. I have a 4yr. old boy. Put all else, All else, to the side and just give your attention to your boys. Neither one of these guys are stupid. Get off the net and read some books on" Bringing up boys." Get off the net!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 11:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry_S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ground him. Don't let him play with his friends afterschool. Don't let him watch TV. Don't let him play video games. Give him a spanking.
2007-03-06 11:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spank em. he likes to hit folks ...sho him how it feels. he wont like the feeling so heel stop
2007-03-06 11:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋