i have a question about guys.... (i know..i'm so original.)?

Question

anyway, how can i tell if guys actually enjoy being in my company or if they just do it because well, i'm talking to them and it's rude to walk away?

not a lot of guys come up to and strike up a conversation but if i got to them, they talk back. some get kind of nervous - i remember this one guy who was handing me some change and dropped it all on the table instead of into my hand. and then he went on to fumble as he picked it up. or maybe i'm just reading into it too much.

either way...i just wish more guys would approach me without ME having to approach them first. guys approaching me without hitting on me that is.

is there anything i can do to make this probable? why DON'T guys approach me first? i seriously don't think i'm ugly so i figured maybe i've subconsciously put up a "back off" sign but i don't think that's it etiher.

Why would a guy approach you if he didn't want to hit on you? ---- two words: conversation, jerk.

i sound scary? haha... nah, right about now i'm just hungry.. i could use some food in the fridge.

maybe i should clear this up...that's not me in the picture. i just happen to like that particular model - and i agree, adriana lima is hot.

Answer 1

Display your interest. Look them in the eyes and then flash them a big smile.

Answer 2

it's not your looks that are in question obviously ...
if you're avatar picture is true then I suspect that it could simply just be that when you approach guys it's catching them off guard because men are very often not used to pretty women making the first approach for conversation or accqauntaince and simply aren't sure how to respond or react. The other side of your question as to why guys don't approach you first could also be due to the same thing only in reverse and men are the worst when it comes to fear of rejection. I think you just have to accept the fact that you're an extraordinarily beautiful young woman and men will more often than not be afraid of that rejection with you. Sad I know but that's the way men work quite often but I suspect you'll not have too much trouble making a great many friends.

Answer 3

hi my name is allen and yes iam a guy. i cant speak 4 everyone but in my own life and i think afew others 2 we do get a bit nerves when talking 2 some ladys its only because we think that lady is something special and want her 2 notice us but it back fires sometimes. if u want a guy 2 approach u all u have 2 do is eye contact and a smile as u may all ready know. its also abit hard 4 alot of guys 2 read body talk they dont how 2 do it or what 2 look 4 but when we are with our mates we always check out the ladys and then we all sit around and read the body talk of the ladys and compare .if iam alone and a lady is around i look and sometimes wish she wood come up 2 me cause i dont think she would be into me all iam 2 scared 2 approach her maybe thats why i have been on my own 4 the last 3 years iam just 2 scared 2 approach

Answer 4

Hey there, I was thinking about this earlier today actually and I've noticed that no matter what a guy's reasons are to talk to a girl or whatever, the girl almost always assumes he's hitting on her, even if he just asked how she was. I was talking to a guy friend of mine earlier and he said that when he's like walking on the sidewalk and smiles at a girl walking past him then she'll get all defensive and get mad at him for "hitting on her" even though he does it to guys too.

I think it'd be nice if guys took the first step and initiated a conversation too, but I understand why they don't: People jump all over them when they do.

Answer 5

You look good all right. Yeah, that guy dropped all his change because you stunned him, in fact.

Personality will affect how guys approach you even more than looks. You might have developed an instinct not to be so friendly and outgoing because you associate that with guys "hitting on you." But, there's probably a way to handle it.

I imagine beautiful ladies who rise through the ranks of the entertainment industry undergo a sort of selective process whereby they learn to be friendly, sanguine, outgoing, AND to handle a whole spectrum of male behavior, good and bad, and not let it stress them or get to them.

I don't know if that helps, but those are my thoughts.

Answer 6

If you look like you do in that picture then guys are just intimidated by you. I think if you just look like you are friendly by smiling and don't give off any kind of an attitude with your facial expressions more guys will come up to you.

I don't know if guys are really going to approach you without hitting on you unless they are gay.
Sorry thats really the way it is.

Good luck

Answer 7

Assuming your photo is really you, I can confirm that you are not ugly.

A lot of blokes can feel a bit intimidated of approaching a hot babe such as yourself. That's why the guy dropped his change, he probably thought all his Christmas's had come at once.

Answer 8

What’s your conclusion on the matter? As general response men shy away from attractive women. I’m sure I’ll get many thumbs down, but it’s a proven fact. Models often get cold shoulders.

Answer 9

Perhaps there's something in your body language that's sending messages that guys should stay away. Except for the one's who are hitting on you, and are not paying attention to those unconscious signals you're sending out.

Answer 10

the same thing happens to me....i hate having to be the one to initiate conversation...why dont guys ever start or approach girls??
i guess they are just as shy and afraid of rejection as we are...nothing new.
u will find the right guy one day...who will come up to you..
you just have to wait i guess.
good luck!