My boyfriend and I have been dating for a long time now, but because of his job and his day to day schedule he can't make enough time for me, so we decided to go on a break. What does a break consist of? What are we suppose to do and what are we not suppose to do, when we are on this break.
2007-03-06 11:01:20 · 17 answers · asked by missw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your not SUPPOSED to be on a "break" thats what love is
just a busy time, you wait for time to open up, not a break
2007-03-06 11:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are really in love and are planning to get back together then you need to talk about what the break means for the two of you. It could mean that you don't see other people or it could mean you see other people. If you both see chances of getting back together then the rules better be made clear soon otherwise one of you is bound to be very disappointed...
The other thing you need to think about is his job schedule...Is there any chance it will change? Will he be able to make time for you then? If the break is due to the job then that's just bull****. He does not work 24 hours and 7 days a week? It looks like the break is going to end up in a break-up. Trust me, I had such a relationship but time was made, not as much as I would have liked, but it was made...
Bottom line is that you need to determine what the break means for the two of you so that you can either move on, or wait and the wait might be a good exercise to learn how to deal with (unfortunately) not having as much time as you want or need with your guy...Good luck...
2007-03-06 19:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by honeycinnebun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you need to do for yourself and let him do the same. I hate to tell you this but there are probably other issues if he wanted to take a break. If a relationship is healthy, strong and stable, it can withstand anything, including a long and busy schedule. I'm not saying it was an excuse, but it could have been one. A break is a "temporary" break-up, and that makes you single and gives you the freedom to see what else might be out there for you. Good Luck, and think of this as a good thing. One of my ex boyfriends wanted a break, and during this break I met the love of my life. To this day that ex still regrets taking that break. U never know what might be waiting for you around the corner.
2007-03-06 19:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, if he asked for the break, then just give him time to think about all of the things that are going on in his life. If he really loves you, then he'll call you and let you know that everything is ok. You can do anything you want because you are on a break. You can't really have any sexual contact with him because he is trying to figure his life out and if too many distractions come along, then the break will just continue. Just give him time, and if he wants you that bad, then he will call you. Basically, make him wait and show that you are interested but not too interested and then he'll come crawling back to you if he is in love with you.
2007-03-06 19:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanna S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to define it or one of you might get hurt. Is it a break to go out into the world and see other people? Is it just a break from contact and being together? Is it a space-needing break from any relationship or needing space from each other break? Define it and communicate and don't be afraid to ask about that. You won't end up having any surprises if the break never ends and he's found someone else, and that will hurt, but not as much as being completely blindsided by it.
2007-03-06 19:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he wants someone new in his life. A break is nothing more than two people breaking up only not wanting to say it.
If you really think you want to get back together, don't do anything you would regret. No going out with other guys, having sex, etc. This will just come back to bite you later.
2007-03-06 19:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with him, but in most people's minds that means that you date other people and possibly start a new relationship and never go back to the old bf. Taking a break means that you're both willing to take the risk of losing the other.
2007-03-06 19:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was his idea, it means he's sick of you and didn't want to hurt your feelings by saying he wanted to break up, but that's what it is. Go out find another man,(but don't have sex unless you never want him back) maybe he'll get jealous and want you back for himself, or he won't care, and you'll know your officially broken up. If he loved you, he'd make time, and never suggest a "break". Just a little males perspective on the "break", take it or leave it.
2007-03-06 19:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You helped make the decision. What does it mean to you?
To me a "break" is a break up.
You need to clarify this one with him.
2007-03-06 19:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he found someone that he wants to be with more then you. It could be many reason, better sex, better woman, better happiness or it could be he been eatting hamburgers and just want steak for a while.
2007-03-06 19:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋