He has always been my only true love, but we both belong to different life styles... too way different, even so, we have done our best to stay together this far, but I miss so much having a boyfriend I can go out with, someone who loves doing things spontaneusly with no pressure or acting like it to make me happy. It is not easy for me to understand that I have to suppress my life in order to get it adapted to someone else's life. It not easy compromising even though we've tried. I hate being the one who makes lots of changes and I think relationships arent suppossed to be with almost 100% of changes when at the bottom of the line, that change brings me unhappines. His emptiness in my life makes me miss my exboyfriend who was my soul mate. I do not what to do, I do not want to leave him but it's hard to live a life like i am living.
2007-03-06 11:00:41 · 12 answers · asked by active26041981 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why did u break up with your soul mate? u might need to go back to that guy.
2007-03-06 11:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to love someone and not be happy. The kind of relationship you have is not a healthy relationship. One day you will wake up and suddenly you will be sitting at dinner with another couple and you'll be thinking "Why am I here? I am not interested in this conversation. This is boring me to tears." You will go home with your guy and there will be silence. He will turn the TV on and there will be silence between you. He will not know you - how could he? You don't know yourself any more. You will grow to resent that he makes no effort to do things you like. Why should he? Things were fine before.
You see? You need to end this now. Find someone with whom you share values, interests, and a similar vision. If you don't you will lose all sense of who you are and what YOU are about.
2007-03-06 11:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is about sharing, not about single-person sacrifice. All couples have rough patches and comatability issues, but this is way beyond that. It is possible to feel love for someone that makes you miserable and is not right for you. But, don't let the fear of being without him sentance you to a lifetime of unhappiness with a guy you were not meant to be with. If you are wistfully thinking about your ex, that is a major sign that this relationship is over. I'm sorry, but you need to either move on or talk to your bf seriously about this. You need to take care of YOU, then you can support someone else.
2007-03-06 11:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by c q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are saying sounds like the case of...I love you but I am not in love with you...meaning, you care for his genral wellbeing, but might not be realistic to spend the rest of your lives together. It's happened to me before and though it may seem hard to break things off, it turns out for the best in the end. In the end, your happiness should be in the forefront of your intentions and if you're not happy, you need to ask yourself what's the root of the unhappiness...and then take steps to change that.
Hope this helps. Good luck in whatever decision you choose to make.
2007-03-06 11:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by angeepangee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sometimes we are willing to make compromises for other people even though they cannot or will not make the same compromises for us. If the compromises that you're making are hurting you, you need to get some distance from him. Tell him how you feel. Take a break. If he doesn't come through with some changes, go ahead and make the break permanent.
2007-03-06 11:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally disagree with the other answers.... dont just walk right out of the relationship. no. confront this guy. Tell him that you miss your life and you want BOTH of you to make sacrifices, it should be give and take, not give and give or take and take. Just try talking, if he really wants to make things work between you then he will change some things to fit your lifestyle. if it STILL doesnt work... consider finding a new guy. But DONT just walk away from love without trying. good luck!
2007-03-06 11:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by gurly gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not mold your life around someone else. Find someone who fits with you.
Any two people can date so long as they truly want to, but one or both people have to sacrifice their wants and needs to do so.
There are plenty of people out there, and you can easily fall in love with anyone, and they can easily fall in love with you. The hard part is enjoying life after the initial love-fest. If you're not compatible, then it will eventually fall apart when someone's tired of forcing it to work.
2007-03-06 11:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by fail r us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End this before it gets any deeper. You said he is your one true love. How can you love someone who makes your life empty.
2007-03-06 11:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy with yourself. You need to help yourself before you can be in a relationship..If you can't love yourself or now how to love yourself..how do you expect anyone else too
2007-03-06 11:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is yes it is possible. Get out of it now and do not spend your life miserable.
2007-03-06 11:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋