when he has been abusive to the mother since start of pregnancy, bullying, not supportive to mother and baby, stalking and harassment after break-up, pontificates about his rights in abusive messages now that child is school age?
2007-03-06 10:58:53 · 7 answers · asked by L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like this is one more time where he's trying to have things his way and show who's boss. ("You can't stop me"). For some types, it's all about "control".
Worst case, I suspect he sees a young child as someone he can manipulate, bribe and twist to get revenge at you for not being his doormat all this time. Best case, he's not that bad and he's decided he wants to know his child.
1) If you can document instances, or get witnesses, where he has been threatening or harrassing, then talk to a lawyer.
2) If you lose (parents have to be really bad to lose parental rights) keep a journal of what happened and what was said in any instances. This may help if you have to have this fight all over again later.
3) Make sure he pays his share of child support, or that he owes the debt and it builds up if he's deadbeat. Eventually he'll have to pay up. How willingly he shells out will demostrate whether he really cares about the child or is just trying to manipulate you both.
2007-03-06 11:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you need to get him to court. The court needs to decide what is in the best interest for your child. You will need to have an attorney and so will he. I would suggest you go through your state government or Attorney General's Office for help. They will give you advice. Also, make sure they know about the abusive behavior and your concerns. Generally they assign the child a Guardian Ad Litum. This person supposedly represents the child's interest. So do some homework and make sure you know what is going on and that you still have control of the situation. He should not be abusive toward you and certainly not towards your child. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-06 11:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by xraytls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that despite his poor judgements as a partner, he deserves SOME rights to see his child. Supervised visits will suit this case. He's still the father regardless of his terrible nature.
2007-03-06 11:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Based on those circumstances, keep him away from the child and get a restraining order. He sounds like a nut. He might even try to kidnap your kid.
2007-03-06 11:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help from us. You need a Very good lawyer. He needs very little or no contact with this child.
2007-03-06 11:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe u should try to get and know him more because if he loves u tell him u will only see him if he goes to therapy!
2007-03-06 11:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by loveisfureal 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
let the courts decide!
2007-03-06 11:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋