Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months. We know we are in love, we just have that feeling around each other. We feel, as if we were in a special comfort zone. I'm 20 and so is he.
We know that we are ready, and that we love each other. We agreed on using condoms. But the thing is, is that we dont know if we are too young....
2007-03-06 10:45:57 · 50 answers · asked by Dougie♥Poynter_lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not to young if you feel that you are ready then you shouldn't have to ask. If the feeling is mutual then go for it.
2007-03-06 10:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Durrell S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are unsure, you are not ready. Don't fall for peer pressure to do it, to belong. In many relationship, being together is more rewarding than the "must have sex" syndrome. We have been brainwashed by the sex industry, that sex is the most important thing in a relationship.
If you really want to know what's important, ask a couple who has been married for like more than 15 years and they will tell you that sex is not THE most important thing. Love, is what sustains the relationship, not sex.
Relax, enjoy the company of each other without the sex. When you are ready, you may even decide that you want to spend your lives together.
Wouldn't that be the best reward?
2007-03-06 10:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by angstrom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 20 once. When is the wedding, since you are in that special comfort zone?
By the time I was 26, I met my wife in September, married her at Christmas and first son was born 3 years later.
Since you ask the question, I suggest that you have some other matters to discuss first. Physically you are both the right age. Mentally I'm not so sure.
2007-03-06 10:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you're not too young according to law, but I will say this, even though you think you are, you're probably not in love. One day you'll agree. First you've got to realize that eventually, you and this guy will be broken up, then you have to ask yourself is he the guy who I'll want to remember forever as my first. It'll be your first time only once, so do you want to wait for marriage? If not, fine, I don't blame you but I do think 6 mos. is a little soon to throw your virginity away. You waited this long, what were you saving it for? After all, you will never be a pure, untouched virgin again. I don't think you'll regret waiting a while longer.
2007-03-06 10:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a virgin and so is he, I think that you should talk about it more. I lost my virginity when I was 16 and now I'm 19. If you think, or know, that he is the right person to lose it to, then you are fine. You are not too young to do anything that you want to do. If you guys talk about it more then you'll feel more comfortable about having sex. If you love each other then you'll know when the right time is.
2007-03-06 10:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanna S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend and I dated for almost two years before we had sex for the first time. I was 20 and he was 21. It doesn't matter how old you are... what matters is if you feel ready or not. You say you do, so that's good. Now you just need to consider any outside or emotional factors that can come into play after you have sex. This link can help you prepare for having sex for the first time. I know I found it useful. :) Good luck!
2007-03-06 10:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you feel that it is the right thing to do, and that you can trust him 100%, then it is your decision.
A few words of caution:
-Once you make that decision, for good or bad, your relationship will change forever.
-By having sex with someone you are implying two things: that you want to be closer to that person than anyone else, and you want to eventually have children and start a family with them. If these things are not true, you had better reconsider your relationship with somone.
-Is what you feel for each other "love", or is it "infatuation"?
-Love is based on trust, commitment, intimacy, understanding, co-operaton, and a willingness to temporarily put aside your own needs for somone else's.
-Infatuation is based entirely on the fact that you happen to *feel good* when the other person is around.
-Infatuation can develop into love, but *only* if both partners are willing to work for it; otherwise, you will eventually be disillusioned.
for more about Infatuation vs. love, see here:
http://www.selfcreation.com/love/index.htm
Good luck.....
~Donkey Hotei
2007-03-06 11:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know most peoples answers are go ahead....I am 22 and I would advise you to wait...sex is something you want to wait to do on your wedding night....I mean think about it what fun are you gonna have on your wedding night if you have already had sex....Besides that condoms dont always work and the last thing Im sure you need at 20 is a baby....
2007-03-06 10:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no magic age. You just need to make a choice are you ready for everything that goes with sex. You have sex you can get pregnant (no protection is 100%) also the emotional part of it. Make sure are are ready for everything that follows the act. I truly believe you should wait for marriage!
2007-03-06 10:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do it when you feel it's right. Your not too young, make sure you use protection to avoid anything unpredictable. But all i say is do it when you feel it in your heart that your ready, when your both sat there and the moment comes dont be affraid you'll know in your heart if your ready :)
2007-03-06 10:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sparrabeth Girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can answer that for you. You're 20 years old, so it's not an age thing. It's a maturity thing.
I know people older than you who probably shouldn't be sexually active. They have the years, but they have all the maturity of an 8th grader.
If you're not sure, then why not wait?
2007-03-06 10:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by Paendragon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋