a couple of days ago i asked a friend of mine if she would like to be a bridesmaid at my wedding in july. she told me she'd need to think about it today. then today she called me and said she had to ask a question before deciding whether or not she wanted to be bridesmaid. i told her to ask away. she asked why i picked her to be bridesmaid. i told her because i thought we were friends. she said , "well don't you think that's a personal thing to ask someone. i didn't know we were friends." and then she agreed to be bridesmaid. how would you feel and what would you do in this situation?
2007-03-06 10:44:57 · 9 answers · asked by princessmelokia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would actually feel a little weird about that. It would make me feel like I've made a big mistake by asking her to be a bridesmaid. How does she not know that you too are friends?!? It doesn't sound like she isn't your friend at all. If I was in this situation, I would call her back and tell her that I've changed my mind about her being a bridesmaid on my big day. Tell her you want to share that very special day with family and real friends and since she didn't even know the two of you were friends, then there's no way possible she could be a real friend. Tell her you don't want to offend her but you don't want her to stand there next to you if she is uncertain about your friendship.
Good Luck
2007-03-06 11:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the strangest things I've ever heard! A little unusual for a response from a "friend". I have always been led to believe that the wedding party includes your closest friends and family and family of the groom and it certainly doesn't sound as if she's close at all! I might would have a little sit down talk with her and maybe rethink my choice of bridesmaids!
Good luck with your wedding!
2007-03-06 19:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not consider you a friend and you and your wedding are better off without her. In the end, you two will probably not be friends and you will always look back on your wedding pictures and think "why did you I ask her to be in the wedding?" Save yourself the aggravation and frustration of trying to get someone who could care less about being in your wedding to actually participate in the fun wedding activities.
2007-03-06 20:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is odd. Most people have friends that know that they are friends with each other. I realise she has said yes but can you pick someone else?? I mean if you had known you would get a reaction like this would you still have asked her in the first place?? It is just a little weird.
2007-03-06 18:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by fijibabie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel uneasy and confused. Call her up and tell her you want to discuss a few things with her and then ask her, "is it possible that I was mistaken about our friendship?"" Even though you accepted, "I cannot help but get the feeling that you really do not want to be in my bridal party". "If that is true, then I would understand you can certainly back out if you want and I wouldn't feel hurt."
Then see what she says. If you see that her answers are cryptic then obviously she doesn't want to be in your bridal party. Dump her as she is obviously not your friend and never was.
2007-03-06 19:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was having a PMS day,she doesn't sound like a very good friend, a good friend would be delighted to be asked to be part of their friends wedding and hurt if they weren't asked, she pro bally just had a bad day and was taking it out on you, just let it pass this time, but keep an eye on her if she continues to be bitchy, and rude, id rethink my choice, she may end up making a *** of herself at the wedding,maybe she's jealous?
2007-03-06 18:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be u took her for granted n also she never expected to be,therefore u must thank her n talk it over as to how u choosed her may be trusted her more. You hve to start somewhere. I wish u both good friendship. may be it comes out to be blessing in disguise. pl answer as to how u feel now
2007-03-06 18:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's odd. If she doesn't feel that she is your friend, she should not be your bridesmaid period.
2007-03-06 18:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would be asking myself (who is really you) why in the world I don't really know who my friends are. Are you two just acquaintances?
2007-03-06 22:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋