My parents are very religious, and some members of my family tend to drink too much. His family is fine with the booze. We are paying for the wedding ourselves, so if my parents don't want us to it's not really their say. I don't mind having booze there, but I don't want people to get out of hand. Should we just not have any? Or is there a way to limit the booze intake without being cheap? Thanks!
2007-03-06 10:44:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have a limited-open bar. Talk with your caterer or bartender before hand and set a limit on the number of drinks one person can have. That way not only do you keep anyone from getting drunk and making a fool out of themselves and the rest of your family.. you don't have to pay for a completely open bar for everyone which can be extremely pricey. Kill 2 birds with one stone. But I definitely think there should be alcohol available at the wedding. Make's everything much more fun!
2007-03-06 10:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a similar dilemma with my reception. My father is a pastor and his side of the family is very very religious and despise drinking and secular music. But my mom's side of the family is religious also but not as strict and straight forward as my dad's side. And my fiance's family are party people. So I was going back and forth as to whether not I should have an open bar and a DJ. After thinking about it a while, I decided that it was our big day and if we wanted to have those things then we would. His family is paying for most of the wedding anyway so I should consider them in planning the wedding and reception. So I've decided to have the DJ and an open bar.
My advice to you is to do what you want. It's your wedding and your money. If they think they will be uncomfortable with the drinking at the reception, tell them they can excuse themselves after the first dance and cake cutting. As far as the family members drinking too much, maybe you can make a little joke (when you're thanking them for coming) about not drinking too much and getting out of hand. But if they are your family and truly care about you then they will respect you and your wishes on your special day.
Good Luck!
2007-03-06 18:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have an alcohol bar where your guests pay for their drinks, so that will definitely minimize drunken behavior or have no alcohol at all, just champagne for a toast as the reception begins! But, if your family is anything like mine, alcohol could ruin your special day and I would say absolutely NO to alcohol consumption for everyone! Why let alcohol jeopardize the most important day in your life when you know that there are some who just don't know when to say when!!! It's your wedding day sweetie, make it your very own by making good decisions for a wonderfully memorable day for you and your new husband!!! Congratulations and Best Wishes for a long lasting happy relationship!!!! Oh yeah.... if you are even questioning the alcohol, just say NO!! You'll be a lot less stressed out and won't have to be embarassed by someone's drunken behavior!
2007-03-06 18:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking out the alcohol is a good way to cut major costs so that may be a plus.
No body will cry if there's not alcohol- you will always have punch or sodas.
You could just have champaign for toasting or have an open bar for a little bit then close it off.
If there will be quite a few kids around and you have quite a few family members that don't want any it might not be worht it to have alcohol.
We're not having any in ours.
2007-03-07 13:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have a limited time that alcohol will be served. If your reception is from 5-8, have the alcohol from 5-6 and let them sober up for two hours...
Perhaps have only light alcohol served throughout the reception until 1 hour prior to it ending?
It would be up to you really.
2007-03-06 20:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could serve beer and pop and coffee, but let whoever wants to drink, buy there own, some people only come to weddings because of free booze, nip that in the bud, you wont have to many drunks there if they must buy there own, plus your parents will be happy.its really up to you what you want, but it's nice to keep parents happy, you to have good heads on your shoulders, whatever you decide will be OK, congratulations and good luck
2007-03-06 19:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you limit the alchohal served to beer and wine then you really wouldnt get too out of hand. During dinner only have glasses refilled if asked and you should be fine.
2007-03-06 18:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have a cocktail hour.....usually before dinner is served. Set a time say your reception starts at 5pm...cocktails from 5-6:30 then dinner is served other than that maybe just champagne for the toasts!!!
2007-03-06 18:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you & your FH if you want alcohol or not.
To limit the alcohol served, you could have only wine served; do only a champagne toast; serve a signature drink; offer adult punch; or any number of other things.
2007-03-06 18:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have an open bar. I would serve beer and wine and have one keg or 2 depending on the amount of people and then a set number of bottles of wine. But.... if you are going to be worried all night and not enjoy yourself then I wouldn't serve it.
2007-03-06 22:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋