My boyfriends weight bothers me because I feel so much bigger than him. What should i do?

Question

Hes also a year younger than me and i feel akward around him in public because I look alot older and wider... : /

Im 5'6'' and 127 pounds.

Answer 1

Candi, I wouldn't worry about it. If he's with you - he accepts you. He probably doesn't like his weight either. He probably has a really fast metabolism and just cannot gain weight.

I was EXACTLY the same way. My wife is a bit bigger than me, and I'm still trying to gain weight. As you both get older, it won't matter as much as it does now.

You can keep trying to get smaller, he can keep trying to get bigger - just truly concentrate on knowing and caring about each other and the physical issues seem to kinda disappear. They grow less and less important every day.

Don't be too critical of him though - us tiny guys have as much of a hard time with our weight as bigger girls do... Society kinda dictates that guys should be all huge and masculine and some of us just aren't built that way. It has to do with metabolism and the type of muscle fibers that you are born with. Long strand muscle fibers are harder to build bulk with than short strand muscle fibers. We can try forever, we'll never be all hulked up.

Likewise, some girls are just kinda big. They can't help it either. I've seen my wife starve herself and try about a thousand different diets....

Love who you are - love one another. No one else matters.

Answer 2

Forget about how you *look* together.
Focus on how you *feel* when with him.
The perfect person for you can come in any size, shape, or ethnicity.
Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Don't ruin a potentially great relationship over something So Superficial!
Good luck!

Answer 3

He shoudln't be your boyfriend if that is the way you are feeling. It sounds to me like you're embarressed about him.. and that is never a good thing in a relationship. My advice to you is to find someone that you feel comfortable with - in public or in private and someone that you love to be seen out with. You should feel confident about your relationship with someone or else you're heading strait for a disaster.

Answer 4

Obviously weight (yours or his) is not a problem with him. He wouldn't be with you if it was. Just maintain who you are. If you choose to lose weight then fine, but he is with you for who you are now. The age factor is nothing. It's only a year.

Answer 5

Head over to Krispy Creme and order two of everything on the menu.

Answer 6

Feed him some cake.
Bahahaha. I have to be chosen best answer, because I'm your friend.
And for other people who read this, he weighs more than her, he just looks scrawny because he's a teenage boy.

Answer 7

what i do is i have a ps2 with the eyetoy and there is a workout game on it called kinetic its fun and if you're overweight and outta shape like me it's one heck of a work out and it's a game so its fun too

Answer 8

Get a new b/f if it bothers you so much...it clearly doesnt bother him otherwise he wouldnt be with you.
but you should probably just try to get over it if it doesnt bother him it shouldnt bother you.

Answer 9

You could have him gain weight or you could lose weight. If your ashame to be with him, get someone your not ashame to be with. You two should discuss this, I am sure he likes larger girls or he would not be dating you.

Answer 10

I guess you have four possible choices here:
Fatten him up, or
Lose some weight yourself, or
Leave him, or
Realize that he loves you the way you are and relax!