My boyfriend...?

Question

Alright..

Last night my boyfriend was letting me know if we spend the night together anytime soon, he doesn't want things to go further than it already has (oral). Unless I want to..

He told me he doesn't want me to feel pressured to do anything, and that he IS a guy and his hormones will react the way they should.. and if he tried to do something to just tell him to stop and it wouldn't hurt his feelings. I'm a virgin and he knows this. He told me he doesn't want me to end up regretting something I'll do with him.

I'm on birth control for other reasons, but I only have been for a month.

but besides that..
He's a really great guy. He's met my parents, treats me like a princess. We don't ever have problems.. except last night when his own 'friend' kept trying to spit game at me. I let him know about it and he just let the guy know there was no point in trying to do that. The guy even knew we were talking.. how disrespectful.

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Sorry I know this isn't some kind of online journal.

but I feel like I'm not ready for sex just yet. I'm 16.

he also let me know that he just doesn't want to have sex with me just for something fun to do once in a while. he's not that type of guy.

I've never said 'I love you' to him.

I think it's so stupid when girls will get into a relationship and a day later theyre like OMG I LOVE YOU!

But yeah...

did my boyfriend do the right thing?

I feel like he always handles situations really well.. and I think he handled this one alright.

I mean I'm glad he talked to me about it instead of just poppin' in on me.

I've stayed with him before, and he doesn't try to pull it out on me every time. He knows better than that, he doesn't treat me like dirt or anything.

We stay with each other because we go to shows together probably about every weekend and stay at a friend's house and go home the next day.

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I know he's a good guy. That's not the problem. I know I'm very lucky and no other guy is comparable to him. I don't date people often because I look for little things BEFORE getting into a relationship that will pester me and don't look right. He passed!


** I've been with him for 3 months.

Answer 1

This whole "when you are ready" is a passive/aggressive way of manipulating you. If you have sex and give up your virginity, it will be painful and worse, you will become emotionally attatched to this dumb kid for the rest of your life. Consider doing other things than worrying about putting together a relationship at this age.

A woman can only have a sexually satisfying relationship within a healthy mariage.

So, be selfish. Tell yourself what you want in a future husband. Don't get into a relationship for a couple of years.

And don't let some snake slink up to you and say "whenever you are ready" and play on your emotions. He isn't some sensitive guy. He's just a jerk looking for his first, or next conquest. 5 years from now, you will be just a notch on his belt and to you, he will own part of your soul.

Answer 2

why oral when you said you still a virgin.stop the oral with him.he may be a gay and was wishing to introduce his friend that ended up offending you.be wise.

Answer 3

you do oral? COOL!!!!
that's why he's still around