My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about a year and a half now and it wasn't until this Dec, that he had told me that an old friend of his (female) was back from overseas and had just called him to say hello. He said that he wanted to be open and honest with me so I thought no more of it. Since then they have talked about once a month. Recently I asked him, if he had ever thought of this person as someone he might have wanted to see on a personal level, he had said yes, but that he had felt that way before we had met, about 4 years ago. When I had noticed that she had called again I asked him what they had talked about(general question), he told me that he had asked her if they were just frieds? I asked him why would he ask that??? He said that he had just wanted to make sure with her that she knew that he was in a relationship? I had asked him "didn't she already know?" And he responed yes. , what was he trying to really find out? Am I over thinking this?
2007-03-06 09:58:07 · 13 answers · asked by Advice25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he couldn't tell me why he needed to reiterate why he felt the need to ask if we were just friends I felt that something else must be going on then just a friend thing. I told him that I did not feel comfortable with him talking to this person anymore. He said that it was no big deal and that he understands. I just feel that there were some things that he was not telling me. The fact that he knew that she was no longer in a relationship, led me to believe that they were talking about personal stuff.
2007-03-06 12:08:31 · update #1
First of all, he's not trying to make you jealous. It sounds like he truly values and respects your relationship and he's being very honest with you about it.
Secondly, it sounds like this friend may be wanting more than friendship from him, or at least inquiring if more than friendship is a possibility. He's responded by re-stating that he is comfortably in a relationship with you, and reaffirming that they are 'just friends.'
It really sounds like he's doing all the right things, and being honest with you about it. To me, he sounds like a really good guy for sharing so much and also for standing his ground about your relationship.
I think maybe you're being a little harsh and you should be a little proud of him.
2007-03-06 10:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people come and go in our lives and there are some that affect us, our thinking, theyre interesting or whatever the case is...they are more memorable and we feel kindly towards them, wish them happiness because they touched our spirit or heart or mind.
He is most likely wanting to know her intent for calling on him now...because there once was an intimate connection. but he feels no ill favour towards her and doesnt want to injure in any way. what for? so he is being kind and polite and reiterating that his heart mind body belong to another. she isnt being unkind...so why would he be unkind? if she was being a 'bit** to him ..his reaction would be different towards her. their energies are equal you see? its no problem...if you give off a negative energy to him about it...he may give it back to you. just tell ur guy he's very kind and how lucky you are that he chose to be with you. paece
2007-03-06 18:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know i am just as confuse as you are see here is the thing why would he try to make you jealous? have you said or done something to him that might of gotten him jealous if there is then he is just trying to make you jealous and there is nothing to worry about. but if not then you should ask him and depending on his answer youll know if he is actually purposely making you jealous.if i were you i would so dump him.
2007-03-06 18:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by ariel j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sounds like there might be a little interest there. He's going to have to make up his mind because he's hurting 2 people.
2007-03-06 18:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2007-03-06 18:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is being honest with you. He may like the other girl as a friend, but probably nothing more.
2007-03-06 18:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness this guy sounds very suspisious and this calls for a very very serious TALK no arguing just TALK and you should EXPLAIN and DEMAND to know things because if your going to marry this guy then your going to have to get your little high school jelousy and drama out of the way. if you feel like hes the one then you need to talk to him and figure something out, but if you feel like its not going any where then you need to just let it go its so not worth it, if he really likes his friend then tell him to marry her!!
2007-03-08 02:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-14 17:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-06 18:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that the three of you 'got together.'
2007-03-06 18:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋