My ex wanted us again after breaking up with me for 2 months. i dont know how serious he is so i told him i have to think about it. we are long distance. do you think i should ask him or hint that he should at least buy the tickets to see me in person? but then if i asked him to do that it's kinda like i'm imposing on him. i still wouldnt know how serious he is. plus, he's gonna graduate this may and he said he could find a job where i am right now b/c i told him if he wants us again long distance is not an option.
i do want him back but i dont wanna take him back immediately b/c he'll lose respect for me that way. but how exactly should i play hard to get now?
2007-03-06 09:52:00 · 3 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why must you "play" at all?
Relationships are hard enough without the games.
Try being honest with him and yourself. Try NOT playing games and genuinely working at the relationship.
You might be suprised how well things go when both parties in a relationship are working together instead of working against each other. You're supposed to be on the same team, remember?
If he's sincere, you'll know it. If he's not, move on and find someone who is.
He can't lose respect for you if he has it already. If you've earned his respect, you have nothing to worry about.
If he wants to see you, he should be offering to pay for the tickets. If neither of you are willing to pay for the tickets, then neither of you really want this to work out.
2007-03-06 09:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. accomplished that. and that i do not favor to sound like a moist blanket yet those type of revenge fantasies do not artwork. no count number number how a lot you're making him pay, and no count number number how truly sorry he says he's, do you imagine that you'll ever truly believe him? that is extremely genuine if he ended issues with you to be with somebody else. the very undeniable truth that he's graduating ability his existence is going to regulate in a huge way and only may be scared. So, there is an particularly massive threat that he's accomplishing out to you for a experience of protection. in spite of why he needs to come back again, what's your motivation for taking him again? If it truly is only for the revenge, stop. it truly is no longer worth it. yet, in case you particularly desire him (and it truly is no longer some way of attempting to fulfill your ego) and nonetheless insist on playing this out, the perfect revenge is apathy. Make a existence for your self that would not count number on him to be finished. If he truly needs you again, he will hit upon a fashion to hitch your existence. I wish you the perfect.
2016-12-05 08:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by crabtree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me and you played hard to get i would assume you were not interested and stop trying --- if he has no respect for you then its not worth getting back together --- he should have respect for you whatever you do --- if you want him back then tell him and at the same time tell him why you dont want to start seeing each other right away --- always remember its not a competition --- its wanting to be with someone ---- if he is prepared to come to you then bravo --- and my lady is a long way from me and i will pay to see her and if she wants to come to me then i will pay for that as well ---- best wishes to you both
2007-03-06 10:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋