is there a way I can deal with this paranoia, its really bad and I don't want to break up because of me being paranoid of cheating on her, I really dig her and don't plan to cheat on her but I think everything I do is cheating when its not, its not fun, anyone got some tips to help me chill out?
2007-03-06 09:46:07 · 11 answers · asked by bertaaron123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could have a sit down and go over what she considers cheating and what she doesn't, once youve clarified what she percieves to be bad behavior then you should feel a lot less guilty about the things you may think are cheating now ( like slow dancing) but are really things she could care less about. Decide where your priorities are, there's a million and one girls you could have "fun" with , but there will be a very select few that you could have something genuine with. Chances are usually if you feel guilty about it, that's most likely something you shouldn't be doing, so reevaluate your relationship as well and decide if youre ready to commit or if you'd rather play the field.
2007-03-06 10:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By doing something that will cause pain and hurt to your girlfriend, I would consider you to be on the path to cheating.
Promise me you will never invest your heart in someone else until telling the one you are currently with that the two of you have a problem that needs to be fixed. And, this is before telling her that it is over. Before telling her, explain why you are leaving. Don't use a BS reason. Be up front, just like you'd want her to be with you. You may even want to tell her that you've had dreams and thoughts. Make sure she understands you've taken NO ACTION YET. Be ready for some rocky rides on that one. Maturity lives with the same hormones you're living with now, only their Mr. Quiggly doesn't get to make all the decisions.
If you can learn to live within those guidelines, you will never cheat on your mate. And, that is something of an accomplishment.
2007-03-06 10:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is when you flirt with another woman, kiss another woman or have any other romantic and/or sexual relations with another woman. If none of these applies to you, you can rest assured that you are not cheating. Also, your paranoia of cheating is a good sign that you WON'T cheat because you are so worried about it. Just let your girlfriend know how you feel and that you won't cheat, you don't feel the need to cheat, but you want her to understand what you are thinking and feeling when it comes to this. Most likely, she can help in some way. However, it just sounds to me like you are in love and don't want to screw this relationship up like you may have in past ones! ;-P
2007-03-06 09:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dorkapotamus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet the chum. Get to be attentive to them and according to danger you will not worry it as lots. do not confront her she'll deny it no rely if this is actual or not and be indignant you will think of that of her and additionally you will appear like a paranoid boyfriend that can't cope with it.. and it won't help the concerns in any respect. So disagreement is to not be finished except you be attentive to for a actuality. So, get to be attentive to the dude.. and see how they have interaction. in the event that they provide the effect of being in simple terms friendly not something to agonize approximately. in the event that they seem to be slightly extra desirable than friendly then you certainly can agonize.
2016-10-17 10:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on it. Always think that whatever is going to happen will happen and it's up to you what you do in the situation. I asked my husband one time if a girl that was extremely attractive with a better body than me came up to him and stripped, what would he do? He gave me the "No one is more beautiful than you in my eyes", I said that doesn't answer the question. He said he would tell her to get dressed. I said, you should have stopped her before she got that far. He said He didn't know what she was doing. So to make a long story short. There will always be thoughts that come into your head, it's just what you do with them that counts.
2007-03-06 09:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is my advise sit her down and let her know what you are feeling she may be more understanding than you think and if she is real then she will help you thru your paranoia just make sure that she knows you have not cheated and do not plan too and let her tell you what she thinks cheating is that way you will know
2007-03-06 09:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me gone head and break it down for you if you really and truely love her you wouldnt hurt her cause lets say your like my x he broke up wit me and then he end up goin wit somebody that treat him like a dawg now if shes good to you then you wouldnt want to end up doin the wrong than and breaking her heart because if you do she may not ever in yall life talk to you ever again
2007-03-06 10:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by amelia d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you are doing something (if its with another girl) ask yourself, if you saw her doing that with a guy would you be upset?
If you wouldn't get upset at it, then its usually fine to do!
2007-03-06 09:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i always have that feelings.. its a annoying thing to have.. only because u dont trust urself.. but tell her that u feel like that.. maybe it will eas things up a bit hun..
2007-03-06 09:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sleeping with your girlfriend
it will relieve tension and you'll spend time with her too
2007-03-06 09:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by nathan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋