Examples: taller, more athletic, stronger, other siblings idolize him (slight exageration). I only seem to surpass him in knowledge, but I'm older. I should be smarter, right? Whenever I try to improve I don't feel like I'm getting any where. HELP ME!
2007-03-06 09:45:26 · 10 answers · asked by Pokezach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't need to improve yourself. You just need to stop comparing yourself to your brother. In comparing yourself to him or anyone else you're always going to come out the loser and you will never 'get anywhere'.
You said your brother was better than you? What is THE PRIZE you are competing with your brother for? Your parents love? Other people's admiration? What will you win by being 'better' than him?
What you are lacking is not height, athletic ability, strength or the idolization of your siblings. What you are lacking is self-love. You feel empty inside and you think that other people are supposed to fill that emptiness up for you. You don't need to improve yourself, just learn to love yourself as you are. You need to fill yourself up with your own self love.
Instead of focusing on what you are not, spend a little time every day focusing on what you are, what you are good at, what you have accomplished.
2007-03-06 10:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different even in the same family. My sisters all strongly resemble one another but we all had our own talents and occasionally were envious of one another.
I am sure you also have your own natural abilities even if they are less obvious than your sibling's. Certainly you would be expected to be more educated than a younger sibling, but actually being smarter would be a natural ability. Sometimes it takes time to find or develop your best abilities. Van Gogh didn't become an artist until he was 27 and Grandma Moses was already a Grandma before she started selling her art. Give yourself time.
It can feel crappy when you are under-appreciated, but sooner or later both you and your family will come to appreciate who you are.
2007-03-06 16:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by AmyU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so jealous and be happy for him. You know that you are smart and I'm sure you have other talents. You just don't seem to notice them because you've been letting yourself feel overshadowed. And since you are the older one, you should be more mature and set a better example.
2007-03-06 09:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
with age comes wisdom so wight payshince is a verchew and u shoud not let it git to uhe will slip and lose it one day the reason i now becouse i'm a little brother and for me it's the other way a round i'm wiser and my brother is the athletic one but goat what.
2007-03-06 10:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by mathew l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though u are older don't let that upset u. u have to find what it is u are good at.don't worry about your brother or the next person. person worry about your self.self improvement is the way to go.
2007-03-06 09:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u have to realize something..... u r granted a gift from god.... the gift of uniqueness....... u r unique..... no one ever lived or will live that can do things exactly Ur way...... so find what u r good at .... and u will outcome any one by Ur success not just Ur younger brother... just focus on Ur qualities and try to improve them .... and state Ur weaknesses and try to overcome them ........good luck
2007-03-06 11:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by enasshalaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own worst critic. Moew than likely there are a few things about you that make him feel inadaquate. try to stop focusing on what he does better and focus on making yourself a better person.
2007-03-06 09:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Norma S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel insecure that he is better than you ,much better you give him support ,your the older your should be matured about that thing not to be insecure because he is your brother what ever he achieve you should be happy and thankful that you have brother like that,by then you feel that your better brother for him .
2007-03-06 10:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything. well yea keep trying but be glad that your brother is good at things. what you see is that hes good at the things you cant do. one day you will find something that you can do that he can. so keep trying!
2007-03-06 09:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by savanna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill him and take his place
2007-03-06 09:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋