Why are single dads hero's, while single mothers considered zeros?

Question

And what are the possible actions women can take to counteract this negitive paradigm?

Answer 1

Such a nice SEXIST question!!!

Answer 2

I think it's assumed that women are mothers and nurturing by nature and raising kids should be a no-brainer. The truth is that its a tough job and not everyone is up to the task or does it well. Because these assumptions are made, the very human mistakes that single moms make are unfairly magnified.

With men, the perception is that any single dad involved with his child is a good dad. That's an equally damaging perception of single dads; the idea that a man is involved with his child's life should not be a given, but an assumption. There should not be anything extraordinary about a man totally engaging himself with and being responsible for his child. It's as if single dads should receive the Nobel Peace Prize for doing what they ought to be doing anyway.

The best way to counteract these negative paradigms is to start support parents equally, regardless of gender. We should help make all parents heroes, and they should want to be heroes to their children.

Answer 3

When people see a single father they think. How could the woman leave her children. Or his wife must have died. They think that man must be something special to take on such a responsibility. When people see a single mother they think she had her children out of wedlock. Or that she did something wrong. Not to mention the fact that single mothers are so common. Women are known to be the primary care givers for the children. It's sad to think that women aren't seen in a better light. We have the world on our shoulders and society's stereotypical views on our backs. Even with all of these hardships we find a way to maintain. Still we're seen as second class.

Answer 4

first of all, there are not as many single dads so we tend to stand out extra. Secondly, i don't be attentive to who you have been conversing to however the only those that look to view me as a hero are my babies. i've got by no potential gained a dime of latest child help and because kin courts are somewhat biased against adult adult males, their pathetic excuse of a mom has by no potential been made to pay or flow to reformatory. this is hard for any person to boost babies on my own. i don't choose compliment, i might in simple terms choose to have an analogous rights as a single mom.

Answer 5

It's how ppl have grown to see us single moms.

Single moms are most likely to be classified as a tramp, sl*t, whore, ext.....

The percent of a guy who will actually step up and help out and claim the child is very low. ESPECIALLY if he's a single guy. Don't get me wrong they're out there, but it's a rare thing.
So when you see a single guy being a father to his child, it's like a hero status for him. (I see it as being an adult)

I really don't know why.
You tell me what's the difference between that and when a single mom is working 3 jobs to make sure ends meet, and that her baby has all it needs to survive?
She should be classified as a SUPER HERO!!!!

I don't get it either, but it's a good question, and I hope you find your answer!

Answer 6

I brought this point up in a previous question about single moms. It is a huge double standard! Single dads are revered because they "stepped up" when mom took off but yet when dad takes off, the mom is look upon like a **** or worse!

I am a single mom myself, and my son "sperm donor" has absolutely nothing to do with my son, no child support no nothing.
I am not on state assistance, I have a good job and totally support my son on my own. There is always going to be judgment from people and there isn't anything that we can do about it

Answer 7

That is such an excellent comment.
I guess if people mention what an effort some single dad puts in then the comment could be made that there is hundreds more single mums out there doing it tough too.
Men do things around the house that are considered traditional 'womens jobs' and they expect a bloody medal!
Yet, I could mow the lawns or check the oil in my car and no one would bat an eyelid.............

Answer 8

I don`t think there is any action women can take to 'change the view of the world'.

I`m not a dad - but a professional babysitter, and even when i do stuff with/for kids that i think are pretty standard (like helping a handicapped child eat his cake at a b-day party) people are staring at me like i am actually walking on water. (I don`t, i`d sink :P).

Why? Dunno. Perhaps men in general are not good as parents, and the few that are, are seen as being someone very special.

However, there is a slightly negative tendency to men as well.
My regular babysitting assignment is a couple of kids, with twin girls too. When i`m out in a park, and one of them falls, and needs a bandaid or something, i need to be soo darn careful what i do, or i get sued for 'inappropriate behaviour towards a minor'.
What can men do to stop THAT movement?

Answer 9

i dont now any one that looks at single mothers that way, but id say single dads are less likely cuz in a seperation the woman usually gets custody of the kid, so for the man to actually get custody, ppl get the impression that he must be a pretty good guy, as to where a single mother may be in that position cuz shes a ho, that got knocked up by some random guy,,,,, im not saying this is what i think about single mothers, my mom was single and raised 5 kids, im just saying society may see it this way at times

Answer 10

I wasn't aware of this stereotype. But I think the reason for the single dad thing is because they are so rare. For some bizarre reason, people seem to think men can't raise children without the help of a woman. Even married men who have their kids on the playground alone get offers of aid, no matter how capable they are.

Answer 11

I wasn't aware single moms were thought of as zeros. I think the fact that single dads are less common they may get more credit but certainly any single parent is a hero in my eyes.