also he owes me money and is getting me kicked out of my place but he already has a place, should I ask him for help since he left me with nothing and I have no where else to go?
2007-03-06 09:26:18 · 15 answers · asked by everfallslave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he basically used me for all my money said he would pay me back and then moved out a month later and took everything, won't pay me back and I just started a new job and cannot afford my rent now and he cut off my phone and I live in a state and city where I don't know anyone cause I am not from here
2007-03-06 09:35:28 · update #1
I left everything behind when I met him because all the people and places that I was involved with where bad for me so yes I have no friends and no other options I would just like to know how to approach him I wouldn't mind talking with him as long as he listens to me.
2007-03-06 09:40:26 · update #2
He and I where in transition when we met and where also starting AA together and where trying to be each others support system and he said he left because all I did was scream at him and that I am mean.
2007-03-06 09:42:32 · update #3
Sounds like a psychotic loser. RUN.
2007-03-06 09:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by dovey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Slow down here and let's do a reality check. For starters you did not tell us whether or not YOU want to remain friends with him, THAT should be the key to how you "handle" him. Secondly he did not leave you with nothing and nowhere else to go. Were you nothing before you met him? There are ALWAYS choices and options for you, talk to a friend or parent or therapist or conselor or someone from your Church, they will help you to see those choices.
And most importantly do not "ask" him for help, if he owes you money, he owes you money period, and do what you need to do to get it back even if that means taking legal action.
YOU are important and you will survive because of YOUR strength and WE (at Yahoo Answers) will not let you forget it!
2007-03-06 09:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real answer: YOU DON'T. Any man who breaks up with you, thinks you're crazy but still wants to be friends, sees you in one way only: MEAL TICKET. And let's be honest: You don't need him to help you but you want him to help you; thereby, keeping a connection with him. And guess what? He knows you're still emotionally attached and just needs to make sure that you'd be receptive should he need anything else from you. Why else would he want to friends with the (according to him) crazy ex-girlfriend that he dumped??
Regarding the money, it may feel like he owes you something but YOU MADE THE DECISION TO GIVE HIM MONEY. If he hadn't broken up with you, you wouldn't be asking him to give anything back. It's just another excuse to have some interaction with him. And by the way, he didn't leave you with nothing... You should still have your pride. Enough of it that you should dust yourself off, rely on your family/friends for support while you're going through your financial struggles and get your life back. Without him!
2007-03-06 09:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by ladylee1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a grown up -- stuff like this happens all the time and sometimes its worse you know -- be his friend if you can handle it but if he thinks your crazy you may not want to start another relationship with him like friendship cause if thinks your crazy now wait till he gets a new girlfriend. -- and if he's not caring enough to leave you with something -- than he probably won't help you anyway.
sorry to say.
2007-03-06 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go jump off a cliff. Or replace any words you would like with the f word. Dont see him, dont talk to him,dont take his calls -nothing .It's harsh but the best thing for you and the best way to get over him and think about you. good luck-remember you are the one who is most important.
2007-03-06 09:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by jweh8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Joy, Ask your friends for help with a place to stay until you can get back on your feet.
If he really wanted to be friends he wouldn't think your crazy.
2007-03-06 09:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by rj_mathis@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing no friend dose not repay a debt and I would get the cash If it appears then go from there
2007-03-06 09:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Martha H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him like a sac of potatoes.
if he's willing to kick you out without a second thought, you shouldn't worry about trying to be friends with him. especially if he's insensitive enough to think you're crazy. you'd prove him right if you tried to stick around with him.
2007-03-06 09:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by bonapuella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take some of his stuff to cover the costs (don't expect him to be happy about this). You don't to have to be friends. Friends are over rated. No one wants to be in the friend zone.
2007-03-06 09:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Joe1664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! " still wants to b ur friend?" Well, its your choice. What do you feel about him? Is he nice? y did u break up with him? What do u mean " left you with nothing" Anyways, just follow your heart. Do what you think is best....
2007-03-06 09:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋