He asked me if I ever F.I.NG.ERED?!?

Question

There's this guy (let's call him B), and we both like each other. He told me he really likes me. He calls me multiple times a day, when I tell him I’ll call him back, he either calls me back or says I was gone for a long time. He bought me and him matching shirts. Even though we’re not going out, he’s told everyone in existence we are. Yet, a lot of the times, he brings up other guys, or just specific guys when I'm talking to him in weird ways. For example, there's this guy in my school who he thinks likes me at least a little bit even though I don't think so and I don't really like him. ALL THE TIME, B brings up the guy and he says, "You guys are the perfect couple." "I can see you walking with him and holding hands - lovebirds." “I bet you’d love to be with him.” He says this in kind of a joking way. B and I were talking about the show, Lincoln Heights, once and I mentioned how I liked one of the male characters and thought he was cool and B replied with: "He looks gay."

Even weirder, he asked me one day on the phone if I’d ever fi.n.gere.d myself before and as soon as he asked it, he apologized over and over.

WHAT’S WITH HIM?? And what was with that question? He’s 15 by the way.

Answer 1

He is hormonal and jealous. Which is expected, he doesnt really know how to act around girls at that age. All you can do is tell him it doesnt matter if that guy likes you, you like him. Or, it doesnt matter if that actor is hot, you think he is hot. Also, as far as the fingered question goes... Hes a HORNY 15 yr old boy. Im surprised the questions arent more sexual. Good luck

Answer 2

He is a typical confused teenage boy with a high sexual drive who probably fantasizes about you. OR he could be bisexual and be attracted to you AND the guys he mentions. OR he could be testing you to see what kind of guy you like. But the telling everyone you guys are dating and the constant control (calling you,etc.) is sort of weird. I'd tell him to back off a bit.

Answer 3

My bf was only 14 when we started going out and he asked me the same thing, I really don't understand why they do that....and he started apologize just like you said "B" did, but then later on down the road he told me a lot of bad stuff, you know, "THAT" bad stuff, and told me how could it would feel if I f..i..nge..re....d and just really weird like that.....I really don't know what the deal is with some guys these days.

Answer 4

He's just another immature 15 yr. old. First of all it's nice of you to even put up with him. If he has the nerves to even come out to ask you a question like that dear, he's obviously thinking about that with you. He's probably only trying to get into your pants like most other teenage boy would.

Answer 5

What a creep.
He might be talking like this because hes insecure and doesn't want to lose you or some other reason like that but its getting to a point where theres protective and just plain creepy.

Answer 6

WHOA this guy is WAY scary! He is acting like he owns you! Very stalker like. Honestly if I were you I would distance myself from him, he shows signs of obsessive behavior which can manifest in time into many other problematic behaviors, such as sociopathic behavior and violence. Seriously you need to stay away from him.

Answer 7

Yikes... 15 year old stalker. Run away now, before his weird questions and fixations take a turn to the worst.

Answer 8

Just sit him down and talk to him...tell him how you feel about him and ask him why he does all the things he does. You said you both like each other...why don't you just get together with him for real!

Answer 9

Yea he sounds a bit strange, if you dont feel comfortable maybe you should put some distance between eachother and just be by yourself.

Answer 10

He sounds like a hormone crazed teenager