How should we handle this? It has gotten back to us through the little girl's mother (who we are pretty sure is not mad about the situation, but had heard through the grapevine at the elementary school about the incident, and had to pry it out of her daughter, and just wanted the true download) that they kissed at school a few days ago. Not clear on who initiated it. The little girl says she doesn't remember. The pair are good friends. The fact that he has not said anything to us is a bit of a shock considering that he is known for not being able to keep a secret. We don't want to overreract or blow it out of proportion, but feel that it needs to be addressed. We are worried that 7 is a bit young for this. Are we wrong? How do we address this without coming down too hard or , the opposite and equally possible scenario of laughing about it and taking it too lightly?
2007-03-06 08:56:04 · 19 answers · asked by carol ann 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It was probably harmless. I don't think at the age of seven there were any sexual feelings involved at all. It was mere imitation of activity observed in the media or through your relationship with your spouse.
So if anything, monitor the internet/videos/video games you let your children participate in.
2007-03-06 08:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal unless he is making a nuisance of himself. I would do it casually and even tease him telling him that you heard he has a new girl friend. Then tell him that you heard he kissed her. And then a little more serious just say, "Don't be doing that all the time." And leave it at that.
He is probably a little immature for his age since he doesn't sense peer pressure. You, should have the dad do the teasing above as it is fitting for peer pressure.
We know how it all works and peer pressure does a reverse when he gets older.
The only think you want to be concerned about is if he is doing it for attention. When kids do unusual things for attention then it's worth looking into closer.
2007-03-06 09:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about this
my son now aged 8 went through a series of 'girl friends' aged 4 - 7
the first relationship they were both aged 4 and they would spend their entire lunchbreak gazing into each others eyes and he would go all dreamy at the sound of her name
when he was 5/6 he had another gf who was insistant on him being invited to her birthday party and at the end when i asked him to go and say 'thank you for inviting me' she held his hand and then gave a real big smacker on his lips!
age 7 he had a third gf (who was keener on him than he was on her) but he went through a stage of hugging anyone and everyone (kid wise) so every so often she was on 7th heaven when he gave her a hug.
now aged 8 he says he 'no longer has THOSE kind of feelings' for girls
children do have childhood sweethearts - it is all very innocent - then hit a period of latantcy around 7 or 8 which usually lasts until puberty
i wouldnt worry - it doesnt sound like the girls parents are worried about it either - take your cue from them - it is a childhood sweetheart thing - he will grow out if it. Just see it as the innocent thing that it really is - smile at the innocence of it all and learn to cherish that memory.
it wont be long before they reach the age where boys only want to play with boys and girls only want to play with girls - and that can present other challenges too.
kissing in second grade doesnt mean the same as kissing in the 10th grade would for example - so unless the other parents and girl mind i wouldnt worry about it either
2007-03-06 09:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax first...I can understand that you are not ready for this. You need to sit him down and talk to him about it. Tell him while kissing is not wrong it should be done by people that are older. You don't want him to feel what he did was wrong but he needs to understand he's not old enough yet. I wouldn't go into too much detail so that he isn't confused.
2007-03-06 09:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be mad,
thats normal because kids will stop belieiving in cooties,
And if they (you could say) "break up"
they wont feel very bad.
Plus you have nothing to worry about with little kids not having matured sex organs or just a sex drive.
Im pretty sure theyre not kissing for sexual pleasure,
but because theyre good friends.
Thats how they show their affection towards eachother i suppose
2007-03-06 09:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say relax and dont worry about it yet. If it becomes more of a pattern than maybe sit down with your son and tell him that he is not "bad" but kissing is something meant for adults or something along those lines.
2007-03-06 09:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O come on - I'll bet you did it too at that age. The kisser held them down and kissed them very quickly. And then the kissee would cry. As with most things at those ages, if you don't act like its a big deal, then they don't act like its a big deal. You gotta pick your battles.
2007-03-06 09:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by NavyBrat 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it was harmless. I was in kindergarden it was probably just a peck on the lips. But you guys should make sure they are watching age appropriate tv sometimes kids watch soap operas and try to imitate. But i wouldnt worry. I have a 6 yr old sister that says she has a bf. and they hold hands.
2007-03-06 09:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7 isn't too young for this when you have television that projects this to children every single day...Even cartoons kiss....I'm almost positive that it was an innocent "touching of the lips" (that's how I explained it to my mom when I was that age) Unfortunatly, you can't stop your children from growing up and this is one of those signs of growth....
2007-03-06 09:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not harmful at all. He's probably just curious. No serious feelings behind it.
2007-03-06 11:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by PureSophistication 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋