I was answering a quesion about a person who is in a lot of mental pain, how dair people to tell to get over it when they have never been raped hit all there life on top of it we have bi-polar what say to that ignoret ones?
2007-03-06 08:51:49 · 41 answers · asked by Dove4ever 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
SORRY DO TO DISAPOINT YOU ABOUT MY RACE I AM AN AMERICAN CUZ U SAW I WAS MARRIED AT 12 YOU STARTED WITH MY RICE, AND CATHOTHIL...DO NOT JUDGE BOOK BY IT COVER YOU DO NOT KNOW ME OR MY STORY,
2007-03-06 12:01:05 · update #1
Getting over a traumatic event no matter what the circumstances is never easy or quick. It is a long process that demands the person really sees inside themselves and find out what it is really going to take for them to heal.
To the ignorant people who mindlessly answer or answer with rude comments I would just ignore them.
I believe those people have self esteem issues, and that the only way they can feel better about themselves, is if they put others down.
Just know that if you are strong enough to survive all that you have that someones ignorant remarks shouldn't keep you down.
2007-03-06 08:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Must be nice to have a life with NO pain. Look at it this way....life is give and take. For the obvious pain many suffer, others suffer in their own way. Considering your life after such trauma, one should call it a "New Normal". It will never be the same as before but a new life can be built from it. You really don't have toanswer anyone.....ignorance comes in many forms. Just consider yourself more enlightened and try and reach those who can benefit. I have found with these people, only until they experience such grief and pain in their or a loved one's life will they understand.
2007-03-06 09:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by easy you mean "effortless," of course it isn't. I was abused at seven years and am still twisted by it.
If by easy you mean "simple," well then of course it is. You just have to put it behind you.
Twenty years of night shift at the hospital taught me that there are a lot worse things than a forty years past rape. One has a choice between remaining a victim or moving on.
Remember, it was nothing YOU did. You need have no guilt or shame, and anger doesn't help. Move on, and good luck.
2007-03-06 09:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A traumatic experience such as sexual abuse is not something that you can get over easily. Experiences such as these unfortunately changes who we are, how we look at things, and our general perspective in our life, and our future.
Sadly, there are lot of people that we'll encounter in our lives that doesn't have any respect for other people's feelings and experiences (whether good or bad). This is something that we have to unfortunately have to live with, whether we like it or not.
A lot of survivors (I don't want to use the word victims) managed to find meaning in their lives and acknowledge that their experience of being abused wasn't their fault. I think this is crucial in being able to live with that experience and trying one's best to move on, and get on with their lives (with the right support from significant others) no matter how hard it may seem.
Good Luck and remember that what is MOST important is how YOU see yourself, and not how OTHERS see you.
2007-03-06 09:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by DeN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, it is not easy to get over that stuff. For most people stuff of that nature will effect them for a lifetime. Whoever said that was just trying to get a reaction out of someone else, and clearly, they got it.
Welcome to the internet, it is full of kids with terrible opinions on life and even worse spelling (hint hint). I have found the best thing to do is simply ignore these people. As crazy as it sounds, they will grow up some day.
2007-03-06 09:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by THUB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a ;little confused about ur question, just cause i never answered that question.....
and being raped or abused is something u never really get over!!! u may be able u move on with ur life but it comes everywhere with u...
and as for the bipolar...my mother in law has by polar and its not easy to live with having it in the family never mind me having to deal with it.
2007-03-06 08:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by laydenirvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no type of abuse is easy to get over. Anyone who has been abused- be it minor or major abuse - will attest to that.
As for what to say to the ignorant ones- Just sincerly let them know that you hope nothing happens to them that would start to compare. There is no reasonable response to ignorance except knowledge.
2007-03-06 08:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not easy, but it is a deeply disturbing and frightening topic for many people. Those people are liable to say any silly thing that comes to mind just to make the topic go away. It does not mean they don't care, it just means the topic scares them and they don't know how to address it. By the way - calling people names won't win you friends, so please drop the "ignorant ones" remarks.
2007-03-06 09:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people who have not had such horrific experiences have a difficult time empathizing with those who have. This is very sad. I would admonish them not to comment on the situation at all if they can not offer any comfort or encouragement.
2007-03-06 08:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you do know that they have never been in a similar situation ? who is an ignoret one do you think? you will get all sorts of answers for sure,, but how DO YOU know what they know? honestly?
2007-03-06 09:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋