so me nd my boyfriend JUST STARTING GOING OUT. it hasn't even been a week yet, nd when it's just me nd him talking, or we're together, he is sooo sweet. but then all of a sudden around his friends, he doesn;t talk to me that much, but then again, when they leve he's his normal self. i rly like him, shud i talk to him about it, or break up. i'm in high school, if that helps. thanx
2007-03-06 08:51:33 · 26 answers · asked by only_half_clueless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow sorry about the grammar, i was in a rush
2007-03-06 09:04:39 · update #1
that's very immature of him. it's typical for guys to do that with their girlfriend, they expect us to just be okay with it. they're so dumb. however i don't think you should break up with him just because of this reason. defitnally talk to him about it though because it's something that's bothering you.
good luck
2007-03-06 09:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by SMILES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating a week. Give it time. If he still does this in a month or more, then confront him about why he is awkward or ignores you when his friends are around. Get to know him more, see if you really like him, and his friends. In the end it shouldn't have to be either you or his friends, it should work with both. Maybe there's a reason he's like that with his friends, do they not like you? Find out what the problem is, but don't push it, and if it still happens weeks from now, then he's not worth it, and you should move on. Good luck.
2007-03-06 08:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like him, you should definitely talk to him about how you feel when you are together. However, if he likes you, he should be able to recognize how he treats you around his friends and when it is just the two of you. You are still in high school and boys are kinda silly and immature at that age. It is a pr oven fact that us girls do mature quicker than boys. And you're still young, so if things end up not working out with this guy, you'll find another-have faith in yourself and you'll be OK. hope this helps.
2007-03-06 09:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by nessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does this because he is immature. He does not want to look like a "wuss" to his friends. He really does probably like you, but is afraid of his friends seeing his sensitive side. Talk to him openly and honestly alone, do not cause a scene with others around. If he cannot be there for you all the time, its probably not a good fit. Hope that helps, and good luck. You are young, you have plenty of time to date around, don't settle on the first guy. I married young, because it felt like the next step in our relationship even though i knew we weren't right for each other, and we ended up divorced. She wasn't a bad person or anything, we just weren't right. Don't rush into anything, but be open and honest with each other and yourself.
2007-03-06 08:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by grunstable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women today need to develop a stronger frame of mind and also to learn how to dump these jerks that don't know how to treat us with respect. Please, do not start your dating years learning how to accept this kind of behavior from men. You deserve to have a honest and loyal and healthy relationship with all of your friends, especially your boyfriend. The way to do that is to trust yourself. When things start feeling weird, that' your heart telling you something isn't right.
First, what could you possibly like about this jerk that can not even acknowledge you around his friends, what the hell is that? Tell him that his behavior is totally unacceptable and you do not have to put up with it. If he agrees with you things are going to work out. But, If he doesn't DUMP HIS AZZ AND QUICK!! Because that means that he don't give a damn about how you feel.
You will learn how not to except negative behavior from men while you date them, then later as you become more mature you will be able to see azzholes from a mile away and you will be able to save yourself the heartache and not have to deal with them. Good Luck dating...
2007-03-06 09:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teens are very conscious about his appearance. Your boyfriend may want to maintain a certain image when he is around his buddies, because he does not want them to think he is whipped by you.
You must mean something to him. Most guys do not bring the girl they are dating around their friends/family unless she means something special to them.
The next time you are around him and his friends, politely find a way to be included in the conversation, if he ignores you or gives a rude response, then confront him about it when you are in private.
If you believe he is acting disrespectful, then dump him. You don't need to put up with being humiliated by anyone.
2007-03-06 09:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey thats how boys are...There all like that...Been there done that...IF you talk to him im betting he will say no I am not I dont act different..You can try talking but probaly wont help much..It hasnt been long enough to see how things will go...So that I dont know what to tell you..But you would think he wouldnt act like that right away...hope this helps a bit
2007-03-06 08:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by mommie2005 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are usually really immature in highschool and try to 'perform' for their circle of friends. Keep that incident in mind when he gets in his 'luvy-duvy mode' and don't let him get away with it. Chances are good that he'll continue to try to impress his friends, he's likely to betray any confidences that you share with him, and will not be loyal to you. If you like him, you can try to talk to him about it, but he may be too immature to realize how important this issue is to you. In any event, take your time getting to know him and take measures to protect yourself in the event he winds up being the biggest jerk you've ever known. In order words, consider what is in your own best interest at all times. Not talking to you that much around his friends is one thing...but if he's not quick to 'take up for you' in their presence or starts acting like a jerk to you in their presence....bail!! good luck
2007-03-06 09:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the typical boy situation. He's very immature for the way he's acting. If I were you I would bust him out in front of his friends. I would say dont act like you can't speak to me when your with your boys. March right up to him and say that. If your not that brave ask him y he does it when yall are by yourselves if he says "I don't act like that" say yes you do but I can act funny like that too watch how i act with you when we're by ourselves since you want to be funny acting. That should put him in his place
2007-03-06 08:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Vanecia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're young and your questioning whether you should be with someone, generally you should move on. Don't do what so many girls do and stay in a stupid relationship for too long! If you do that you will ruin other changes with better guys. don't let yourself get played! be the stronger person.
2007-03-06 08:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by ellesbells83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, grammar. Seriously dear.
Talk to him. Give the relationship a fair shot. If it doesn't work out later, at least you can say you tried.
2007-03-06 08:54:55 · answer #11 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋