I dated someone for about 1 ½ years, and I recently ended the relationship because I don’t know if were right for one another. I love him, and he loves me, but I feel like there should be more. It seems as though people can’t live without their other half, and I would be able to live without him. I don’t know if I am being realistic thinking there is only one person out there for everyone, or if I should just take the fact that I do care for him, and marry him. Is love all that its cracked up to be, or am i looking for something that many people go their whole lives without finding??
2007-03-06 08:47:49 · 9 answers · asked by Marie K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is someone out there for you! It's good that you didn't marry him, you'd end up regretting it down the line. Don't "settle" for anyone, find the perfect one!
2007-03-06 08:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand why you're asking this question. First of all, it is NOT wrong to let someone go because you don't want to be selfish by just keeping him for yourself because you are afraid to lose him so you just let him dangle on a string. It is very couragous of you to let him go, because I'm sure you've heard of the saying "If you love someone, set them free. If they return, then it is meant to be." Well if it is meant to be between you two, you guys will end up together in the end. This is more like a test of time and patience. If he truly loves you, he'll wait for you and if you love him nothing will keep you from being with him. Having doubts is one thing but being selfish is another. By you breaking up with him just because you have doubts is not wrong. As long as you are still there for him and he is there for you, love will help you find your true answer. Most people only use the word love but it rarely exists because everyone has their own definition of love.
2007-03-06 08:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Minty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this!! And although now and again, i get weak moments and think i did the wrong thing, i know i am right. It was hard i married the guy and had two beautiful kiddies, ut still i knew he wasn't the one. It was about respect for me. I need a guy to respect, and I was losing it wih him. Although the sex was great and we could have quite easily spent the rest of our lives together evry day I felt more like his mother and more things would gt on my nerves. You are a strong person, like me, and I'm guessing you need a stronger person to be with. This guy wasn't it. Although we are in a world of equal oppportunities, the girl still likes to feel cared for and protected? Am I totally wrong or nail on the head? You did the right thing. Life is too short, for both of you.
incidetelly i met up with my ex, we slept together, only last week, it was great until I realised I had moved on so far, and he was exactly the same. Now, although I don't regret a thing!!
2007-03-06 08:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by flumoxed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just not that into him, you needed to break up with him. He deserves to have a woman who loves and adores him. But personally, I think relationships need to be based on the fact that you can live together, rather than can't live without. Not being able to live without someone seems a bit silly.
2007-03-06 08:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,But first spend a lot of time with him (even though youve dated him for 1 and a half yrs.I think u might just need 2 spend more time together and if that doesnt work out tell him how u feel and break up with him.(Say"We can still be friends):)
2007-03-06 08:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cutechic05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally! That's what dating is all about. Finding someone to spend the reat of your life with. If you don't think that you could have a chance of eventually marrying that person, you should go ahead and end that relationship.
2007-03-06 08:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by delicious-ly evil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't expect it to be like a fairy tale but if you truly did not feel like he was right for you, then you were right to move on. I personally don't believe there is any such thing as a "perfect person" for you but you will find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with!
2007-03-06 08:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing wrong with what you did. Why keep wasting each others time if he doesn't give you that desire your craving. It's definately somebody out there who can give you those sparks that you want just play the field and have fun until you come in contact with someone who can do that for you.
2007-03-06 08:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Vanecia K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i felt like that too..but it takes time
2007-03-06 08:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋