i am 20 and i love someone who is 40 ...and he's asked to marry me more than once ...but i am just so confused..can anyone tell me what to do
2007-03-06 08:47:33 · 24 answers · asked by shorouk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age doesn't have to matter, if you love him. You can have a great releationship and still have an age difference. Explore your feelings for him and try to picture your life in 5 years and in 10 years both with and without him in it. You are young, but not too young to make up your own mind.
2007-03-06 08:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by kelloggs322 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same exact kind of relationship age wise (20 years different) I wanted to marry him but we just didn't work out. We had to many problems together and with each other. And after about 6 years of being apart from him, I am sooo glad that we never married. Do what feels right. I would wait a couple years from now and then see how you really feel marriage or not. If you two are connecting still, marry him wait a while after you marry to see if you made the right decision. If you are still happy, make a family together. Enjoy your life with the one you love. If all turns out the way you want congratulations.
2007-03-06 09:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Starlit Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking a group of total strangers if this is the right thing to do, then it is not the right thing to do. There is something that is causing you to feel as if this is not the right thing, listen to yourself and move on. To love someone older than you means just that. There is nothing right or wrong about it. This is YOUR experience in life, not anyone else's . Do not put your happiness in the hands of others. You are 20, he is 40. OK..... So what. The only thing you can do is try, or not to try. There is nothing to be confused about. Love him, or don't. But the longer you sit on the fence, the longer you will suffer... either way you will find out at the expense of yourself and him.. Do yourself a favor.. listen to yourself. No one knows you like YOU do, no one can LIE to you like you can lie to yourself, and no one can LOVE you like you can love yourself. So, let it go, see what happens or don't, but make the decision yourself. Only you know the answer to this question.
2007-03-06 08:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Che K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say have your fun but don't marry him. Wait a few years and see where your lives are going. Getting married at twenty has a low success rate as it is without it being a May/December age gap.
Think about the big picture here:
What if you want children later and he doesn't? Even if he does he will be over 60 before they're twenty. Have you done everything you've wanted to do before getting married? How about travel, school, work, and a career? Twenty years is a large age difference right now.
2007-03-06 08:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is where you find it. when I was 25 my gf was 49. she was wonderful. we are still great friends. I did not marry her because i wanted children. got married to a woman three years younger and we are divorced now with three children. I will tell you, i was in my late twenties when i got married. I made lots of mistakes. Men mature much later than women and he will treat you like gold, becuase his priorities will probably be you. BTW...my fiancee is 27 and a wonderful woman. I did not ask her to marry me because she is young and hot (although she is hot). I asked her to marry me because we have a great time together and get along very well. Hope this helps.
2007-03-06 08:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, go for it.
I am 22 and my fiance is 47. Age is nothing but a number after you hit 20 years. It's all about maturity and compatibility.
2007-03-06 08:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it right?of course it's right but think about this: when you are 40 he'll be 60 and wont enjoy doing the things you want to do a)because he already did that or b) he is too old for that.
sex with older men is great though...
2007-03-06 08:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet you've already thought of it this way - when he was 20, you were being born. this man is old enough to be your father. what do your parents think of it? usually, I'm against relationships with such an age difference, but if you're truly, and i mean truly, in love, then you should marry him
2007-03-06 08:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you confused about? Love has no color or age. You are probably attracted to him (not his age) because he is a good guy. Follow your heart not whats right or wrong.
2007-03-06 08:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Friday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one question do you love him if your not sure than wait more see how the realtionship develops later in life, just say i;m not ready for to get marry just yet but see how things will lay out
2007-03-06 08:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by mrl53104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋