I'm really scared to tell anyone about my life - I have been bullied in the past by someone I trusted, and as a result of the bullying I just believe now that I am pathetic and should grow up. When I was 7 till 9 yrs of age I was sexually abused by my father, and sexually taunted by his friends, and then as a teen when I suffered clinical depression, slapped about by my mum. I lived in a mental hosp for a year, and during the summer term my brother Ian died, and I had a breakdown towards the end. Then a few months later I moved to a kids home after colwood mental hosp, and I havent seen my family consistently for a year and a half now. I have lost my long term bf since then, and HAD started drinking, and still smoke weed. But no one ever hears me complain, and if i do its made in joke. I am a teen i know, but im scared.. i know im not selfish deep inside, but i just cant cope with caring and losing ppl over and over...im getting so tired of life, as much as i want to live. help?
2007-03-06 08:40:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You should DEFINITELY tell someone....a counselor, psychiatrist or some other medical professional. Abuse is a terrible thing......I suffered some
2007-03-06 08:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by josh m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need is to see a professional and talk to them about your problems. Please do that as soon as you can. It will make a huge difference in your life. You got a rotten deal to start but life can get better for you if you keep working at it.
The next thing to do is to think about yourself for a moment. Where are you going. I know your past has been rough and really do have a lot of understanding towards you. But that is all the past. You have the future ahead of you. What are you going to do with it? Do you want a home and a family of your own? You can achieve that if you want to. It isn't going to be easy, it is going to take some work. But in the end it will be worth it. You can do it if you set your mind to it. I know you can. Just the act of coming here for advice shows you are willing to make the effort.
Few people have as hard a start as you. But from where you are now you can become whatever you want to be. When you achieve things they will be all the sweeter for the fact that you had such a rough start. You are stronger than you think and you are more capable than you know.
Best of wishes
2007-03-06 08:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had to deal with a great deal of trauma in your life, but you have the resilience to want to rise above your past. You are clearly a very strong person.
My suggestion is that you tell everything in a professional setting with a therapist and work with that person to recover. Recovery should be your main purpose at this time in your life and another romantic relationship at this time would be a major distraction.
I think you have the capacity and willingness to do the work it will take and be successful.
Good Luck
2007-03-06 08:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by jonnyraven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all the abuse and abandonment you went through, you need to be involved in long term couseling. If the first one doesn't work for you, try another and another, but get in some serious couseling. Your also self medicating by drinking and smoking weed, you should also be seeing a phsyciatrist for some medicines, to have a diagnosis and medical treatment to help you work through these things.
2007-03-06 09:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a somewhat, although not as severe situation as yourself.
When I got out of the hospital things were looking up then went right down the crapper sending me into a very ugly drug induced spiral.
I contacted my Dr from the hospital and started seeing him on an out patient basis. He helped me get my head screwed back on, stand up for my self and taught me some great coping skills.
I urge you to seek help.
Getting help does not mean you are weak and helpless. I means you are mature enough to know that you need help and smart enough to seek it.
Good luck and God speed
2007-03-06 08:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend you need help because what your saying is you have killed yourself inside and don't care anymore, so you are going into vices so that you won't remember. You ahve had a bad life from the start but you can make it better if you really want to. ALlos you need to start it out is you want to feel better and be more involved in family matters. ALl you need to do is go see a shrink and go from there. If not you will die lonely and that's not good. If you want to chat all you have to do is IM me anytime.
2007-03-06 08:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is best to let someone know. keeping quiet will not help at all, and will mean that your problems and pressures will keep on growing until you are at breaking point. please seek some professional help before you end up doing something you will regret. i am not a counsellor or a psychologist, so i cant really help you, but others can. ask your gp for a referral to one as soon as you can. good luck and i hope life starts to improve for you. it saddens me to hear that one so young has had to deal with so much in her life.
2007-03-06 09:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Minerva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First here's a hug ! I think you definately have to talk to someone. hushing up WONT help you, you need to talk about your problems to a profecional ! Now please call your doctor and get the help you need ! Best of luck, you deserve love and care but you must ask for help. Let me know how you get on ! x
2007-03-06 08:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Madness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me that u had a rough life> & there is nothing wrong with being sad or upset just try not to dwell on the past & look forward to the bright future that is headed your way. maybe u should go talk to a doctor there is nothing wrong with that
2007-03-06 08:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋