Is it wrong to ask the man to sign a pre nup because of his child support issues?

Answer 1

You should check with the laws in your state. In California where I live, the new wife can't be held responsible for the husband's child support, even if it's in arrears and owed to the county.

My sister's ex husband was going to school and having his second wife support him and their child, and my sister got awarded child support based on him earning minimum wage because they couldn't charge the new wife for it.

My other sister was the second wife for her husband, and he was having his wages garnished because of back child support, he owed the county money from when she was on public assistance but he didn't know where they were to give her money. She went to see a lawyer and was told that if they got divorced, that whole debt goes with him.

Either way, you should see a lawyer. If child support is the only thing you're worried about, however, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Answer 2

No--but why would you want to marry someone that you know has child support issues? If you're thinking about signing a prenup (and this is my personal opinion) there's already a niggling feeling in the back of your mind saying "This marriage may not work!" If the marriage doesn't work and you do have kids, will he be any better with child support with you guys? Plus, I don't know that a prenup can actually discuss child support for unborn children. Prenups are usually just to protect your existing assets that you are bringing into the marriage as an individual. So, before you worry about signing that prenup, you may want to rethink the marriage as a whole!

Answer 3

I don't think it's wrong at all. You are entering into a more complicated situation than most, and you must be sure to protect yourself. This isn't a run-of-the-mill first marriage where both parties are entering into things with a blank slate and no previous responsibilities/commitments. Also, your husband should consider one as a matter of protecting himself and his child as well. Money is hard to come by in life, and so you have to make sure that what you have is kept safe in the event that something does not work out. Good thinking on your part, and stick to your idea.

Answer 4

No its not. Some child support orders exist even after your spouse has died. The mother could receive part of his estate on behalf of the child. Better yet, in some states a lien can be placed on your home that you own with your husband if he fails to pay back child support. Not to mention, if you file a tax return together, its possible to have your refund seized if he owes back child support. Protect yourself, get a prenup.

Answer 5

first thing. don't listen to people who don't know what there talking about. second,if he is already paying child support and you get married it won't change the ruling on how much he pays. he'll still have to pay the same amount.the ex can't pull him in court for more just because he marries some eles.and the same thing goes when and if you two have kids.he can't go back and say he wants his payments dropped cause he married. so don't worry the ex can't get anymore money

Answer 6

Absolutely not. Prenups are extremely standard these days, even if you have nothing at the time of marriage; it can protect the things you GAIN through the course of the marriage, too. You'd be surprised what you might end up having to protect yourself against.

Answer 7

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with a pre-nup for that reason. In fact I would encourage it.

Answer 8

Nope b/c some "baby mamas" wait until you get married and want more b/c they think they have to a right to everything that you have once you get married. Trust me on this.

Answer 9

why would anyone marry a man with 'issues' with child support? he pays it, or it shows women (by his lack of action regarding his children) his true colors.

if a woman is stupid enough to marry a deadbeat (and yet think he'll be dependable for her) she'll find out the hard way.

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
www.goodparentspay.com

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

CHILD SUPPORT LAWS
http://www.lectlaw.com/files/fam11.htm

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 10

It's best to not marry a person you need to be legally protected from.