What the best way to do it? I tried one night by not giving it to her and she just cried all night and i gave in. During the day she does without it or when she's at the daycare or family members house she's fine without it. It's just when she's ready for bed.
2007-03-06 08:38:49 · 21 answers · asked by mind_ur_business05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Here is what I did. I talked for at least a week about the foo-foo fairy coming. I would tell my little girl that we didnt know when she would come but one night she would come and take all the foo-foo's that my little girl had so she could give them to a new baby. But then explain that when she takes all the foo-foo's she will leave a nice present in exchange. Buy a doll or something that she wanted...wrap it up really nice and one night take all the foo-foo's while she sleeps and the next morning be so excited that the fairy came and took the foo-foo's because your daughter is a big girl now and be extra excited when she opens her gift. This REALLY worked for my little girl!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 08:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by louise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it and don't make it a major thing. Take it away from her when she's asleep. Give it back to her when she starts crying. Just little by little remove it from her more and more. Eventually she'll forget it. Put something else in her bed to teeth/suck on such as a stuffed animal.
There is no need to jerk her security away in my opinion since it can be easily done with patience's. Worry about the potty training instead... too much has been made over this pacifier bit.
One time, it's going to cause SIDS and now it is just the opposite. If you didn't know it already, they are saying to remove the pacifier at the age of 1 is ok since it does not reduce SIDS deaths "significantly" by that time. IOW, 1 year isn't a magic number, although you've probably been waiting for this day. I'm a believer in not following the most current trends as they almost always turn out to be wrong.
Just look at SIDS and sleeping on back, stomach and pacifier. If you went back in a time machine just a decade you would be looked on as a bad mom. And guess what, more than likely you go forward on a time machine a decade and you'd be a bad mom as well.
Always believe in your own common sense and instincts over the experts. Always! And you will never regret what you did.
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LOL! I love the momma bird story. If you haven't learned it yet new mom, you lie to kids all the time and spank them when they lie.
Just tell her the tooth fairy stole it in the middle of the night because kids weren't putting teeth under their pillow. This lie will help you a few years down the road as well.
And you can save a few bucks as well in the future by replacing her tooth under the pillow with her old pacifier with a note of apology from the tooth fairy.
I'll tell you how to lie to them more later as I got a big whopper about a guy in a red suit and one about a rabbit.
2007-03-06 16:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold turkey is the only way. You will have two or three nights of hell, but you just have to go through it. If she is only using it at night you might consider leaving it til she is a bit older, say 18 months or 2, depending on the child and discussing with her that she is too big for a pacifier and that it is time to throw them away and choose a lovely new toy at the toy store.
Go to the store, choose the toy and ceremonially chuck all (and I mean all !) the pacifiers in the bin outside the store. You might have some trouble at bed time, but at least she will have participated in and seen the disposal of the dummies and got some compensation for it.
That worked fine on the only one of my little boys who had a pacifier. Good luck !
2007-03-06 16:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tried several times with the same results you've had. Then we used Santa Claus as a reason for our child to give up her nuk. We explained to her that Santa needed to bring it to another little baby, and that in exchange he would leave her presents. She went to sleep with no fuss on Christmas Eve and has never asked for it since.
With the Easter Bunny coming soon, you could perhaps incorporate that into her giving it up. Though I'm not sure a one year old will understand the concept. (Our daughter was 2½ when she gave her nuk to Santa).
It's been proven that babies using a pacifier does not pose any health risks or teeth deformation... unless they're still using it when their permanent teeth are coming out. That being said, another option would be to let her use it a while longer. I've heard of some children giving it up on their own, especially if out of peer pressure from other children at the nursery.
2007-03-06 16:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Clint A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it then. If she is only usuing it for bedtime... what's the harm? As long as she is using an orthodontically designed pacifier, her teeth should be fine.
Some ideas I've heard of for getting rid of the pacifier are:
-tie them to a helium balloon.... tell your child they're going back up to the storks, to give to other babies (child probably needs to be a bit older to understand)
-cut the nipple off the pacifier (uh oh... it's broken)
-tie all the pacifiers together (making it ackward and bothersome)
The most important thing is to stick to it... when you decide that's it... throw them all away, and don't replace them. It might be a week from hell, but it will pay off.
2007-03-06 16:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I took my three off when they were one and I just stopped giving it to them. They cried for a couple of nights but they got over it after a couple of nights. You just have be strong and not give into the crying otherwise she will most likely be on it as long as you will let her. But it usually only takes a couple of days for them to get use to it.
2007-03-06 16:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by tychdyboys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only for bedtime, let her have the pacifier! It is a way she soothes/comforts herself to relax and go to sleep. She is too young to take THAT part of it away from her. She will be fine with it. By the way, do you read her a bedtime story? That helps too. But, please, wait awhile on taking the pacifier from her at bedtime. She is only a year old. By the time she is three-that is more appropriate. She will prbably give it up on her own by then. Take care.
2007-03-06 16:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you take something away from her then you need to replace it with something else. I took away the passy and gave her a blankie instead as a "new friend" or "bed time buddy". She is going to cry for it for the first night or two but after that she will be fine as along as you are consistant.
2007-03-06 16:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by bnelly05 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try to stick it out with the crying. If she is not using it during the day, just give it some time. Try not to give in even though its really hard to hear your baby cry. Better now than later.
2007-03-06 16:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAAHHH the pacifer..I took my son off it about 10 1/2 months...I got lucky he didnt care..But what you can try doing is cutting the tips off of them..Keep one good one and the rest cut the tops off..So when she sucks on them she will have nothing but a whole in there...hopefully she wont like it anymore...good luck...Or i know this sounds bad,but try not to give in she will end up forgetting about it....Its okay for them try cry..work out those lungs
2007-03-06 16:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by mommie2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋