I have a friend who flipped out on me Sunday and I haven't heard anything from him. I just posted a question asking, "would a guy push you away if he was in love with you?" I'm not seeing anyone right now and I don't know why he would push me away...he knows how I feel about him...he's already told me there's no hope for us to date but...I don't understand why he would flip out on me and not contact me to even apologize...I'm afraid that he doesn't care about me anymore after flipping out on me...I wanna see him but I don't know if I should...I still love him...and I don't know what to do...
2007-03-06 08:33:16 · 38 answers · asked by breathe_in2687 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NEVER!
2007-03-06 08:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to believe that it's time to let go. If he did that and not even give it second thoughts about apologizing or even contacting you; either because of his pride or he's just a total ahole, he's not worth it. He's not worth your time. It doesn't matter how much you love him or how much you try. In a relationship, it takes two to tango. If one person gives or takes more than the other, the relationship will NEVER work. Unless he learns to compromise and communicate with you, he's not worthy of your time. What you need to do is concentrate on yourself and respect yourself more before someone else does. Letting him know how you feel is one thing, showing him is another. If you show him that you are desperate, it'll only push him away more. If you let him know how you feel but yet respect yourself and not try too hard, he'll probably reconsider because men tend to think that way. If you are too desperate, he won't want you. If you show him confidence that you're not afraid to be alone but let him know that you're feeling him then he'd be more attracted to you. But if you've done so much for him and he flipped on you without a call or an apology even by text, then he's just NOT that into you and you will just have to accept it. No matter how hard you try for a person, if that person doesn't try for you, your effort will go unappreciated and you'll only end up resenting the fact that you've tried so hard even when it was never asked for. Good luck.
2007-03-06 08:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Minty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't contacted you to apologize or anything else for that matter because he is a what? A jerk. You said so yourself. :)
Don't expect jerks to do the kind and considerate thing! This is why they are jerks. And you really shouldn't bother yourself with the actions (or lack thereof) of others.
If he is pushing you away, then go happily on about your business. Some things are blessings in disguise.
2007-03-06 08:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you miss him and it pains you as you are left confused with him avoiding you. There seems to be some deep rooted anger he has festered towards you, for what reason I do not know. Only you can know the answer to this. Since he has not called you then I would take this as an indication that he is still angry. If you like, call him, let him know how confused his behaviour towards you has left you. See what he says. Although, if he has a history of striking out in anger by verbally attacking you, then you have to consider if this is something you would be willing to accept. From how you posted your questions leaves me to think he is somewhat unstable. Unless you are leaving certain details out, this is the only conclusion I can come to. Maybe if you reposted your question in more detail I would be able to help you more. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-06 08:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... some men do push you away when they feel they are falling for you, but he has already told you there is no hope for the two of you dating....as far as the contacting you goes, it's only Tuesday...two days....but it could mean he is a coward and doesn't want to face what he has done..."flipping out"....If you feel more than friendship for him, and he doesn't for you, maybe you should move on....You can never force someone to love you.....maybe he is ready for the friendship to end...and you shouldn't try to hold on to it in hopes of it going farther...once in the friend zone you usually remain there.....
2007-03-06 08:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your hanging on to something that isn't there. If there is no hope for the two of you and your just carrying a torch for this guy, maybe he just needs a break from you. He flipped out for a reason, you want more from him than he wants to give you.Just give him some room, and move on. If he wants you as afriend he will come back around.
2007-03-06 08:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was Sunday. Do you expect your right foot that was broken on Sunday to heal on Tuesday? Give the dude more time to get over it. He'll certainly return. There's no reason for you to move on./ It has been just 2 days... Imagine if everyone was supposed to break up after an agrument, everyone would break up over a million times...
2007-03-06 08:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it day by day sounds like he might have a thing for you but doesnt wanna show it..What did he flip out on you about?I had someone like that but he would act totally different around his friends...When it was just us it was great as a "friendship" just dont contact him right now ...If he really wants you in his life then just let it go ....let him contact you
2007-03-06 08:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by mommie2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. He sounds like a jerk. If you did something wrong, objectionable, even the tiniest thing, maybe you shoud be the first to apologize. Then he might feel bad about himself and apologize too.
2007-03-06 08:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by printsmart102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this, but you need to forget about him. He told you how he honestly feels. I am sure that it was hard for him to do so, because he probably did have feelings for you at one time. If you would get back together you would be fight this same problem for your whole like. Good luck and move on.
2007-03-06 08:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by funnyhaha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO not to take him back. If he acted like that, and shows no remorse and not making any attempts to contact you, you are better off w/o him. Chances are, if he does it once, he'll do it again. Who needs that? I don't think you do. Open your options girl! Have fun with friends and see who you might end up meeting =)
2007-03-06 08:37:14 · answer #11 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋