I am @ the moment Happily engaged to the girl of my dreams...However about 2weeks ago things got rocky and we Mutually broke up for a few days when I ironically I ran into my Ex-gf...(Which is BTW aware i am living w/ another woman)...Long story short my Ex caught me @a Vulnerable time &we had sex. She tells me a couple days ago she is LATE and I take her for bloodwork...We find out she is about 1.5-weeks...
She ALWAYS told me she would get an abortion if she ever got pregnat from me AS SHE DID THAT NIGHT...Now she is against Abortion and says it all changes after she finds out...This will Ultimately Ruin my engagement if she Has it.....Help Please.
2007-03-06 08:15:16 · 7 answers · asked by im DEKCUF (backwards) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't convince her to have an abortion--that is a decision she has to make on her own. I know, i know, you should have a say, too. But it ultimately comes down to what she wants. If you really are in love with your fiance why did you sleep with your ex? I know ya'll broke up for a little bit but still--ya'll were only seperated for a few days. At this point there is no help for you. If your ex decides to have this child all you can do is be a good father and pray to god your fiance forgives you.
2007-03-06 08:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey, this is not about you. It's about the little innocent child that resulted from your half hearted pleasure. Now if your actual fiancee really loves you unconditionally, she may be willing to keep you and the baby (I know I would), but even if she doesn't, that does not justify abortion in any way. You shd have thought of your engagement b4 you came in her.
Anyway, my point is, if you make her abort the baby against her will, you may be causing long term damage not only for your karma, but for you ex as well. You don't know if this is the only child she'll ever have or what the consequences wld be. I'm assuming ur not very religious, but believe me, these things do have consequences. You have already committed the sin of adultry, do not add killing by abortion to the list. Don't punish the foetus for you grown up mistake.
Be a man and accept ur responsibility, it's not like she raped you.
And if that ruins your engagement, well, every disappointment is a blessing in diguise, that's just the price you pay for being promiscuous.
Seriously, do not put your gain before your child, and yes it is your child. The sooner you understand that, the better for u.
2007-03-06 08:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by damselville 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all u shouldnt of been messin around on the girl ur engaged 2, would u have liked her 2 do that 2 u , i think not..second of all u made ur bed now u have 2 lie in it. another words if u would of used PROTECTION...she would never of got pregant... so now that she is u just expect her 2 kill it. because thats what shed b doing. i only believe in aboration when theres a medical problem and no other way....in case u didnt no as soon as a woman becomes pregant the fetus is a living, breathing person. why would u want 2 end the life of such a inoccent person.. its just as much ur fault thats shes pregant as it is hers.so u better do some thinking and not bout her getting rid of the child its time u grow up and took responceabilty 4 ur own actions. and if ur smart,witch u dont seem 2 b or that ex of urs wouldnt b pregant? TELL UR GIRLFRIEND NOW and may ull b able 2 work it all out good luck and stop cheeting b 4 u get or give something bad 2 each other.
2007-03-06 08:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just one week after your ex-girlfriend missed her period, your son or daughter's heart began beating. Don't push your ex to kill your child in an attempt to save yourself trouble. Would you kill a one-year-old if he got in the way of your engagement? If not, why is the baby in womb fair game? The fact that your child is small and defenseless doesn't give you the right to kill him. He is the only one who is totally innocent in this situation, and he doesn't deserve to die. Take a look at what you're pushing for:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
And by the way, gestational age is counted from the first day of your ex's last period. If she is 1.5 weeks late, she is considered 5.5 weeks pregnant.
2007-03-07 00:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't convince her to do that! It is up to her if she wants to have the baby or not! Tell your current girlfriend what happened and that you are really sorry and you love her more than anything. That is just sick if you ask your ex for an abortion.
2007-03-06 08:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow, my friend....I don't envy you at all. If your fiance truly loves you & vice versa, then you need to be honest w/ her...but I would seriously doubt the paternity of this child. It's pretty obvious your ex-gf was trying to trap you....good luck!
2007-03-06 08:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha! You broke it you buy it sucka! It's her choice. I hope you get a good job and enjoy the payments for the next 18 years!
hahahahahahaha
2007-03-06 08:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋