me and my bf were goin out for 6yrs it was on and off for a while but for valentines he treated me well told me he loved me for always and i was the same then last week out of the blue he dumped me by text i asked him why he said he didnt feel the same anymore its hurtin so so much and i dont no wat to do i love him and he dont love me how will i get over this as this is the final straw im never going back........
2007-03-06 08:11:49 · 18 answers · asked by minnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww hun! I really feel for you!! I've been there myself and there's no easy way, sorry, but it just takes time!!! Cry it out and get it out of your system, then put everything he gave you in a box unbder your bed (eventually you will throw this away and feel loads better, but you're not ready for that yet). Get yourself into town and do some clothes shopping and, if you're feeling confident, get a hair cut and some highlights. You'll spend a few nights with some Ben and Jerry's ice cream and Bridget Jones' Diary, but if you're old enough throw in a few nights out witht he girls!
You will probably feel like rebounding, be careful tho. Sometimes it feels good to have a nice kiss with a cute bloke in a club - but make sure it goes no further (1. You don't want to get used and 2. you're not ready for a new man!)
You'll need your friends and they'll be there for you - just spend as much time as you can forgetting him and having fun.
PS If there's anything he really didn't want you to do (like hihglight your hair or wear combats) do it!
Good luck hun xx
2007-03-06 08:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by schmeckschmack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*HUG*
Look, he is scum. Seriously. Dumping over a text message? That would get my foot up his buttocks if he pulled that with me. I applaud your not wanting to get back with him despite your emotions. I also applaud your restraint in not kicking him in the ****.
Here is what you do, fill your day with other things. Get new hobbies. Get new friend circles. Get new clothes and do something new with your look. Put away everything he gave you. Seriously, that alone helps it. Go through the gambet of emotions and don't fight them. Don't talk to him. Don't email him. If you see him, pretend he doesn't exist and if he talks to you, tell him to f u c k off. Surround yourself with positive things, but make sure those positive things aren't him.
If your mutual friends want to talk about it, or chose sides or be silly, tell them it isn't their business and you are fine. Tell them you are great even. If they persist, cut ties. Trust me, experience proves that one.
Outside of that, give it time. Seriously, your love will fade even if you don't believe it will. He did a bad thing and you were together a long time. Most importantly, he doesn't seem to grant you closure. Hell, you may always love him...but it will be more along the lines of "that was great while it lasted, but it didn't" rather than "I LOVE him".
Most importantly, don't jump into another relationship of any kind. You don't want to be one of those girls who is only happy with a guy or who always has to be in a relationship. You want to be a strong, sexy, independent woman and you already sound like you will fit the part just by your attitude above.
2007-03-06 08:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will make the pain go away is time. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, and every time you think about him think about what a jerk he is! Do not think about any memories with him b/c this just makes it worse. I was going out with my ex for 4 1/2 yrs when we broke up and I thought I would never not want to be with him but believe me in time you begin to realize that there is a life beyond you and him and you will be happier then you ever were in the messed up "relationship" you two had together! Completely cut off any ties with him! Be strong and do not go back out with him. That one piece of advise is the best I could ever give you ... do not go back out with him! It just prolongs the breakup and hurt, and believe me it will not workout even if you believe it will. Good luck, be strong, and know in time you will be happier then you ever were with him!!
2007-03-06 08:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have passed the 'Finals'. Your final straw and his final fling with you. Move along. Don't keep asking yourself why he did this. The answer will only hurt you more.
After 6 weeks of thinking and living without him, you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Don't hang around moping and whimpering. Go to family things, girlfriends outings, church stuff. Who knows who you might meet out there..!
2007-03-06 08:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get over him without the help of close friends and family.Looks like he maybe just looking for a glorified booty call.Don't buy into it.Know your worth.If you put your all into love then you should get back what you put on the table.
It will hurt.No one can say that it doesn't if you have had your heart broken.It will hurt and take time to mend your heart but in the end your love and your passion for another person will be that much stronger not to mention your self respect.
2007-03-06 08:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by tylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time your heart will heal, it's always hard to be with someone that long and it ends. It should be easier for you to say **** him, because of the way he did it, no one should get dumped by a damn text. He's not worth it honey, and eventually he will see how stupid he was. Hell he might think that your going to take him back, this is when you bust his bubble and flick him the middle finger, cause that was messed up...but it's cool you'll be alright honey, don't go back to him cause if you do, you'll always be playing these silly *** games with his ol' goofy ***.
2007-03-06 08:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if someone can txt you to dump you after 6 years I would be grateful to have them out of my life - what a jerk - 6 years and he txt - I would be furious. It will be hard but you will get over him - when I have been in a situation where the relationship has ended I felt like I wouldn't cope at first but it really does get better with time
Seriously though - what a jerk to do that to you - just remember it is his loss.
2007-03-06 08:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im going to tell you this now its going to take a looooong time do but it will happen, if you've been with him for 6 years it's gonna take atleast 6 years to get over him, and you keep letting him back in your life when all he does is hurt you. This guy sounds like an asshole, so quit setting yourself up if you truley want to get over him, he's only doing this to you because you let him
2007-03-06 08:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by Vanecia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will get over him, it will take time but be brave and strong.
Can I just say - you were together 6yrs on and off but he choses to dump you by text?! What a lame-butt loser, your best out of it! He has no guts if he dumped you that way
2007-03-06 08:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by keeley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 12:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋