How do you teach a 13 year old boy to respect his Mother and Father?

Question

My 13 year old has no respect what so ever for us. We are good and caring parents.

Answer 1

a average 13 y.o respecting anyone?.. LOL
they are messed up, confused, starting to rage hormones, immature individuals
it takes time, patience to get through this without beating the crap out of them

He/she will outgrow it

Answer 2

My guess is that he had shown you respect as a younger child but is having some issues as a teen. he is trying to figure out how to be a man, how to respect you without being beneath you is a real difficulty right now. I would show him a lot of respect and hold a "coming of age" ceremony. Tell him that he is now passing from a child to an "adult-in-training". He is entering a phase of life that means he has the ability to EARN all the responsibilities of an adult and the privileges that go with them. Explain that he can earn privileges by taking on responsibilities around the house. Taking on a responsibility means that you don't have to remind him, he takes care of it. He can also earn things like a later bedtime, or more game time, etc by writing essays on manhood. The first being, respect. Have him write and essay (two pages, and spelling does count) about showing respect, earning respect and why. Other essays can be things like "what makes a man, a man?" etc and other tough issues. He gets to show you what he has learned, what he thinks, etc. and you get to guide his transition into manhood.
Telling him openly and honestly that you feel he isn't showing you respect and that it needs to change, sends him the message that you believe him old enough to do it and capable of it and that you respect his advancing age enough to have an adult discussion with him.
It is really hard to be 13. You are not allowed to be a kid, even though you still feel like one sometimes, and every time you try to be a man, some adult feels like it is their job to slap you down and tell you how little you are and how little you count for. Don't forget what's its like to be 13, you have that advantage, you were there and you survived it. Help him through this transtition to manhood with guidance and respect and he will come around.

Answer 3

I learned to respect my parents from an earlier age than that. Mutual respect. By example. Or is your son going thru the teen rebellious time already? As he was growing up, I trust you set boundaries for him? Curfew, etc.? Let him know right from wrong? My parents taught us how to respect them by respecting us as the individuals that we are. No, we did not get away with sassing our parents, back talking, etc. That was showing them disrespect. Do you back each other up as the parents? Well, you could start off by grounding him. When he doesn't show respect for your household rules. Does he know the rules? I would hope so. Please, sit down and hae a good tlk with your son. He is becoming a young man now. Be willing to listen to what he has to say (other than, you know, I don't know, etc.) Let him know you are wanting to hear from him about what is going on to cause him to not respect you. Is it respect, or just not doing what you want/need him to do like clean his room? Do his homework, get to bed on time, etc? Let him know that now that he is a teen, and getting that much closer to adulthood, he needs to show himself to be respectful, and cooperative, and trustworthy. That more privileges will happen the more you see the trustworthiness in him. If needed, please consider family counseling. Some of it will probably need to be his alone, and some with all htree of you together with the counselor. And, possibly, some of it with just you the parents. That could help a lot too. Sometimes, teens have things on their mind that they just don't feel comfortable talking with their parents about. That is why communicaiton, regardless of what the relationship (parent/child/bf/gf etc.) is s very important. I wish you all the best. Take care.

Answer 4

my parents r 2 the only difference is that im a girl they just get on my nerves when they tell me what 2 do cuz it sounds like they dont think im old enough 2 figure it out on my own so just try not that much chores (i have none) and try 2 be nicer when u tell him what 2 do or just dont tell him 2 do stuff
my friend wants 2 know if he is single or hot cause shes 13 and can make ur son yell i mean respect u and prostitutes

Answer 5

Teaching a boy to respect his parents should have begun a long time ago, when he was very young. However, it's not too late to instill in him, the importance of being respectful. You must also show him the same respect your wife & you want to be shown. It may take time but be patient & hopefully, he'll come around. He has to respect himself before all others.

P.S. I lived in Ohio all my life until my recent move to S.C. Got snow? GO BUCKEYES!!!! GO CAVS!!!!

Answer 6

well guess it is time for him to play grown up. Make him start earning his own way. no more free rides. of course courtesy can be rewarded. he wants to go to the movies he best have his own money and pay for a ride. he wants internet. let him pay for it. mom and dad need to stick together. a united front. You can always clean out his room too. only thing he needs is his bed and clothes and a light. he can get his things back when he earns them. respect that is the goal.

Answer 7

I like the acting grown-up idea (should work somewhat, but makes me think of a Cosby episode).I have really loved using the ideas of love and logic by Charles Fay. They have some great ideas and books. The fact that you are looking for help is great!

Answer 8

you really should have started with respect way before 13, but I agree Shelly T. this is the way I was raised and I am overflowing with respect

Answer 9

okay i was 13 two years ago, no teen has any respect for their parents in this age i dont but we dont care if your good and caring parents if you just leave us alone and dont nag us to do anything we`ll be happy trust me all you need to do is just to let us be dont you ever remember being 13 and hated when your parents wanted you to do everything with them or they nagged you to do things? and you felt the same way your son does now, take it from a teen just leave him alone and he`ll be happy

Answer 10

Show respect to each other and to him and others.

Spend more one on one time with him in activities.

See a profesional for guidance