so......... i like this guy. he's punk. i'm overweight, have poofy hair, and glasses. guys don't like me. i really like him. he's 15 and i'm 13. help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! should i become punk?
2007-03-06 07:58:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um I really don't think you should become punk just so a guy could like you. It's not worth it. He'l be able to see right through it that you are just trying to do it to impress him and that never works. I used to be really shy and geeky. I didn't have cool clothes like the other kids cuz my parent's didn't have much money. I wanted to be popular so I tried to act like the cool girls in school .I got a job and bought some new clothes. I got a total makeover!! The only problem was along with the makeover I tried to change my personality. I slowly began to get more friends but I was loosing my old ones that really cared about me. Eventually I got fed up of putting up an act and I said "IF PEOPLE DON'T LIKE ME FOR ME THEN I DON'T LIKE THEM!!!" I began to come out of my shell and be the crazy girl that I was at home that nobody other than my family knew. Now everyone loves me and I got to keep my makeover(: ........Well it's impossible for everyone to love you because there are jelous people out there but you know what I mean (: Self confidence is a biggy. If being overweight and haveing poofy hair and glasses makes you feel insecure, try flat ironing your hair, getting contacts, and drinking water only, instead of any other drinks. You will loose a lot of weight this way.Clothes are also a big one but don't wear anything that doesn't compliment your body type. When you speak, speak up and when you walk soulder's back and dont look at the ground. This shows people you feel good about yourself and this will attract them to you. Remember and never forget this. You can change the way you look any way you want to but never change who you are on the inside. Good luck girl!
2007-03-06 08:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Deja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do punks only like punks? Look at it this way: you have poofy hair. Does that mean you only like guys with poofy hair? You don't have to try to mirror the person or people you like. Change yourself only as you see fit. Be smart, be friendly, be honest. Lose weight only if you feel it's important. The right guys will like you for the right reasons. Become punk only if you feel it's right for you.
2007-03-06 16:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change for you not for a guy, if you change for a guy it will never ring true for you or anyone around you. If you are uncomfortable with your weight, change it - talk to your Mom about making changes to your diet. (Remember if you do this & she doesn't let you have extra helpings, or sugar, or candy or pastry she is trying to help you fulfill your goal - not being a witch). If you don't like your hair ask your Mom to let you get it cut. If you wear glasses - probably 1/3 of people do - do they flatter your face? Going punk.. You an incorporate some of the look into your regular style.
2007-03-06 16:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by ang_phx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't change. People should see you for who you are not what you think they may want. No to being Punk, become the person who you want to be, if he doesn't like you the way you are than he isn't worth the time of day. Be proud of who you are, be confident in yourself and the right guy will notice you. Ever watch Ugly Betty she is beautiful....she's confident, proud and she is real.
2007-03-06 16:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not become a punk, and don't lose weight for the guys to notice you, do it so you will feel better about yourself and be healthier, but don't get too skinny. Try to get more exercise.
2007-03-06 16:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe you shouldn't try to change your self for an guy. Because you are special just the way your. And I know you probably really do like this guy, but time will go so don't sell your self short.
2007-03-06 16:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not change yourself for anyone If a person can not like you for who you are than they are not worth the time. You are still young, You have a long time to find that someone special.
2007-03-06 16:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not have to change yourself for guys. Be yourself. Even if you became a punk, he may not like you.
2007-03-06 16:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um seriously girl...... think about what your asking. change who you are? why, you are you and thats exactly what you are supposed to be. high school is really hard, and its really really hard to see what im saying, but god. you shouldnt change who YOU are to be COOL or LIKED thats really stupid. you keep being you and i really do promise they guys will like you so much better than some stupid girl who doesnt really know who she is or what she is about posing to be a punk when she knows nothing about it. then you have changed everything you stand for, only for a guy and things probably wont work out with him anyway. so then you lost EVERYTHING. think about it.
2007-03-06 16:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be a punk?
if you do, go for it.
if not, don't change because of someone else. especially since its a huge lifestyle change for someone that you may not like in a few months.
p.s. i struggled with guys for years. It all changed when i lost wieght. not because they liked me better, but because i felt better about myself.
2007-03-06 16:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by littlemoments 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋