I like this boy and he likes me as well. The only problem is he is 1 and a bit years older and we are both really shy. I Catch him looking alot and sneeking glimpses over to me. i mention another boys name and he avoids me for like a week. His mates eyeball me all the time for reasons i do not know. i really want to tell him cos i only have 6 - 11 weeks left till i leave. i can't stand leaving incase i don't see him again. it tortures me at the though of never seeing him again. the other thing is that my mates say that his mates like me aswell. I like him slightly but i prefer the first one. i wouldn't mind going out with either. If one liked me it would be fine but they both do. i do not know what to do. Please help and give as much advice as you can. I am desperate i have been torturing myself for over a year
2007-03-06 07:48:57 · 15 answers · asked by toni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the only thing you can do is talk to him and get to know him!
2007-03-06 07:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll... you and he, them.. have wasted a whole 365 + days... worrying about who like who... so what's a few more weeks... walk away... and find someone else.... you say you're only there for 11 more weeks? are you ever coming back? what would be the point of starting something now? you left some important factors out... your age... when/if you'll be returning... so there's no easy answer... I'm going to say your probably about 13-17... if that's the case... definitely move on... at your age a week is an eternity... OR stop fretting about the time you have lost and do something with the time you have... make a choice... suck up a little courage and meet with your "choice" someplace quiet... where you can't be disturbed... or interrupted... and tell him how you feel... as hard as it is to imagine... the quickest and easiest way to solve a "problem" is to face it head on with honesty and frankness... so much time is wasted on the "what ifs" that not enough ends up being spent on the reality... so suck it up buttercup... slip on a little courage and get on with it.. or move on
2007-03-06 08:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After one year you don't even know whish of the 2 boys you like better? I'd say more likely you don't really like either. You like going out with both, then do, just to find out how you feel about each of them. You are not tied down to either yet. Let them both know you have to leave soon, how they react would also give you some indication whether one or both are keen on you. The separation will also tell you later on who is willing to wait for you to come back.
2007-03-14 04:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can totally relate. me and this guy are 9 years apart and we are shy but the momnet we were honest about how we felt things got easier. one things for sure you cant leave and not tell him. he avoids you when you use other guys' names because he wants you and he knows that another guy could easily deserve you more and make you happier than he can. but make a move. if you like him than he is worth the pain of your friends not agreeing. just take some time off from the guys and have a day to yourself. make a list about the qualities that each guy possesses that youlike and then decide which one you would rather be with. be completley honest with him and things will be okay.
2007-03-06 07:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by alone_in_the_shadows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toni,
life is too short for not daring. If you don't talk to him now, the regrets you will have will be more painful than overcoming your threshold and speaking to him now.
It might help you to write him a good ol' letter instead. You may find it easier to explain your feelings, need not to face him and need not to worry about what others say as nobody will be around when he reads it.
2007-03-09 22:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him as a friend first, see if he posseses the quality you would like to see in a guy; if he's what you want then just don't beat around the bush, ask him point blank to go out with you!
2007-03-12 02:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the world at your feet and so much to explore and enjoy..If you like both,tell them both..You don't have to tie yourself to one person unless you've made a commitment..You could suggest exchanging contact details as you will be leaving soon and would like to stay in touch..That may nudge something along..If it doesn't,then there will be plenty more when you go elsewhere..
2007-03-06 07:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants to go to a party. Start hanging with him(in public). Then for a few days don't let him see you. but don't let it appear your avoiding him. This will make him ask you out. When he does, go out with him for atleast two or three weeks. Then, when you go, stay in touch with him. DO exactly what I said. I've heard this before and it worked.
2007-03-06 07:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not really bothered about which one you go out with then maybe you should leave them both alone. you are leaving soon so leave things as they are otherwise leaving will only be worse for you. You could always give him your new address and write to each other.
2007-03-12 03:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by picklexxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely "yet another" person it somewhat is easy to tell them see you later. If its a lover I attempt and blame myself for having to section hassle-free strategies to spare their emotions a real chum would be there climate your aside or not ,and additionally you dont could desire to tell them see you later , to your paths could flow back sometime In demise in case you get the prospect to declare see you later you have been blessed by potential of having that danger, and their is frequently an understanding of the parting strategies in that know
2016-10-17 10:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by scafuri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both of them and see who performs the best, then you can take it to the next level with the one you want to.
2007-03-14 06:16:42 · answer #11 · answered by jim bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋