A guy I was dating five months ago broke up with me over email...saying that he didn't see us together for the long term so therefore was better to break things off now before we got to hurt. Well I'd been sending him a few emails over the last few months..when I was in a car accident..Merry Christmas type stuff. Last Monday he sent me a long email apologizing for breaking up with me over email..I deserved better than that blah blah. Since that time he was written me daily about small stuff mostly cars/truck stuff since that is something we had in common. What he hasn't mentioned as WHY after five months he's comm with me or what he wants if anything. Should I go to see him to find out what has changed if anything in the last five months to make him start communicating with me again or next time he sends me an email asking him that way, call him. What do you think?? Go see him in person or do it over email or call him?? In the past phone calls have not been answered.
2007-03-06 07:47:11 · 6 answers · asked by T C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wasn't cheating on me..we're both grown adults (33) and are not children although be both have children. We're both recently divorced. If you are not a grown adult I'd really rather you not respond since this is not high school and don't want to play games...I still have feelings for him although I have moved on and in the past five months dated other men so I am not waiting at home for this man to call me.
2007-03-06 08:18:05 · update #1
in person is better and give him another chance and give him a chance with the things u have in common with him
2007-03-06 07:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by delta3835 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, he didn't have enough respect to actually do it in person...give him the same respect in return.
Here is exactly what you say....
"I sincerely enjoy the friendship we have developed and hope to keep it that way. However, I do want to let you know that I took your break-up to heart and have moved on with things. I hope you have done the same, and if not, then I suggest you do so as well."
If you go back to him it will not be the same and you probably won't respect yourself at the end of the day. Relationships fail for reasons, I suggest you do some soul searching and move on with your life before you can't look at yourself in the mirror anymore.
OH and keep in mind most people who will respond to this are little kids. If you like their romantic, emo notions of following your heart, great...but realize you won't grow beyond that drama if you do what they feel is right. Stagnation is an evil, evil thing.
EDIT-As for your additional info...kudos. You have kids together, which complicates things a heck of a lot more. I would sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Maybe getting back together isn't a good thing mainly because it ended the way it did. But in saying that, after your heart to heart you still feel the way you feel and it is reciprocated, why not? Tell him that you want a face to face and if he can't do that, then end of story unless he has a really good reason (like being stationed overseas). You two have a lot to work out and it can be done in a mature, reasonable way that would be productive to a future. Good luck.
2007-03-06 15:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's done this once and you get him back, he'll do it again. Thus causing this hurt he's speaking of. Unless something really weird caused this, that is.
I'm betting on he found someone else and doesn't want to hurt your feelings as much as just telling you. Know way to know with spying I guess.
Could just be a chicken, in any case, ask yourself if that's something you want to deal with long term. I recommend seeing if he corrects himself if left alone, if not you may want to move on.
2007-03-06 15:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds lke he's afraid of any sort of commitment, maybe he's been hurt in tha past, us men can be like that!!
Firstly don't think about long term, take each day as it comes, if you wanna call him...do so.
If he's still interested he'll answer, if he's not...well he wont.
But don't hang around for him, go out and enjoy life for YOURSELF, find inner happiness. If you can't be happy in your own company, how can anyone else be?
Good luck. x
2007-03-06 15:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mrxxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go see him in person and tell him whats on your mind and i think the real reason why he came back to you is because he still had feelings for u he was probaly cheating ill get back to you on the rest my email address is yashminewebb@yahoo.com!
2007-03-06 15:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what just let him go he broke up wit you like that, hes not worth having you. as a guy who has done this to a girlfriend well she just said bye bye and used me multiple accounts after that. if its over its over just move on but dont lead him on.
2007-03-06 15:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋