We're in the same class at school together (both 16 years old) yet i feel he's hardly talked to me for last month or so. There was a few days last week when i thought all was back to how it should be but it's gone bad again. I can't tell if he's not interested anymore or feels threatened by other boys who like me. I tried talk 2 him about it but he sounded surprised and said he thought there was nothin wrong with us. I'm workin everyday to get his attention and be more on gf/bf terms with him but is hard at school coz there's no private space. Usually we get on so well -romance but now i dunno what's happened.
There's been bad patches before but they've always gone back to good but this one's not going away
please help - i dont want to loose him :-(
2007-03-06 07:32:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not playing desparate!!
2007-03-06 08:33:19 · update #1
well if you do lose him then he wasn't meant to be in your life any longer.We meet people on life's journey and these people help us to learn ourselves and what we like and don't like what we love about life and what we don't.All are not meant to be here forever.One day when the time is right you will have been through life's travels and meet some one who will stay and he will be the person that is meant to stay and by that time hopefully you will be mentally ready and emotionally ready for forever.
2007-03-06 07:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like that never change. I am saying that from experience. Yes, he is an idiot.
I know you don't want to lose him, but he obviously isn't putting out the effort needed for a relationship to work.
Here is what you should do...
1) Back off and show some independence. Don't rely on him, don't play into his game. Just do your thing. Join a new club, take up a new hobby. Fill your time with other things besides him. Hell, study in your classes and do the best you can do.
2) Dump him. You have given him plenty of time to change at that point. If he doesn't try to mend things when he realizes YOU are pulling away and showing independence, then he really isn't into you. Period. You deserve better. Plus, at this point, you have probably met a ton more people doing new things and you won't want to be stuck with his sorry buttocks any longer anyway!!!
Sometimes, all a guy, or girl for that matter, needs is a little independence from their significant other. You should always show that. It shows strength. That doesn't mean you avoid them, just let them know that you think they are great...but you are pretty happy with you and don't need to cling to them to be happy to any degree. You get better guys with that philosophy who want to be with you and you get better relationships. You also are happier because you have a more, complete you in the picture.
2007-03-06 07:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to spread your wings and try life without him being such as major part of it. Go out with other friends and concentrate on yursefl - you'll be amazwed at how attractive this can be to other boys, including him. If you look too desperate you will scare him away. Play it cool and have fun without him. You never know you might just find that you don't want to be with him anymore!!
2007-03-06 08:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by Liz W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eva thought about not running for him and making him run and that will show he is interested. Go and do ur own thing and if he loves u he will chase if not u know the answer. Ur a young girl u have plenty of options and a gd future ahead
2007-03-06 07:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by sheepish18uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying so hard but you don't seem to be getting anything in return. If i was you i would leave him alone for now. He gets away with his behaviour because he knows you do all the running. Once he realises your not chasing him any more it might make him see sense.
2007-03-06 07:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to leave him to get his attention. Tell him you want to take a break and see what he says. If he asks why, tell him you feel like he's lost interest. Good Luck
2007-03-06 07:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the only one trying then maybe it's not meant to be. And then there's the usual saying, "You're only 16, don't worry about it. There will be plenty more to come."
2007-03-06 07:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you advise about the time of the month and all yet you need to nevertheless be crying for a reason. in spite of if it wasn't the argument you would had. when I cry for what sounds like no longer something on the time even as i look decrease back there has continually been something which I wasn't admitting to myself like no longer feeling worth artwork, something my buddy had suggested, toddlers starting to be up too quick etc. possibly you're not any more as chuffed as you imagine in this relationship? solid look even though it sounds like he's searching for a way out.
2016-11-28 02:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by ebonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt blame him - hes only 16, your mind is a bit strange at this point being male. maybe you just need to cool off him a bit. your still only 16, its not the be all and end all.
2007-03-06 08:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by robertkeightley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with him after school more and da lil things will probably get his attention like buy him somethin or write him a luv note
2007-03-06 07:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋