My boyfriend has a huge stash of porn, why does this disgust me?

Question

Okay, so my boyfriend has this huge stash of porn. He has magazines, videotapes, and dvds. I find it disgusting. Why are men so fascinated with porn? When I think of him...alone....doing that....ahhh, it just creeps me out. Should I tell him or?

Answer 1

Well, every man is fascinated with porn. This might disgust you because you have other things to do, and not just think about porn. Some people say it's a fact that men think about sex every six seconds. I don't think anyone knows the reason why they're so fascinated with it. You should talk to him about it; tell him your feelings, but break it down gently because he might get offended if you say: "ew that's gross, blah blah blah, throw it out, it's grossing me out etc" but you can say something like "we have to talk about your pornographic collection. It's quite disturbing to me... blah blah blah." Tell him how you feel, but break it down GENTLY. I think that's the key.

I hope he gives up some of it.

P.S. NO MAN will EVER give up his porn.

Answer 2

1. Why are you thinking of him masturbating to porn?

2. If it upsets you that much then you should talk to him about it. But I can assure you he's going to feel like you want to make him into something he's not. The fact of the matter is you don't like him looking at porn because in your mind he should be only looking at you. While this is an inherent fantasy that every woman wants I'm sorry to say its an impossible thing. Have you ever looked at another man and wondered what he was like naked? If you were to answer no, I know for sure you would be lying. All women do that. How different is that from what your bf is doing? You should be glad that he's getting his rocks off to porn rather than sleeping with another woman.

Answer 3

I would say to talk to him about it. Open communication is important in any relationship. If you do not like the porn, then you do not have to look at it nor do you have to touch it. He can not make you. Porn shows a fantasy. Most women in real life do not look like those women in the films and magazines. They can not do half of the positions or fetishes. So this lets a man enjoy the fantasy without really bugging their girl for it. Half the parts on the women in these films and pictures are fake. They spend a lot of money for surgical enhancements. Fake boobs, butt, and other parts, some of the men have them self surgically enhanced also. It is a big multi-million dollar a year business, and men have nothing better to do then waste their money on it, and play with themselves.
If it is an obsession with him then he may need help. If it is just a collection, to be collecting, then leave him be. But if he wants you to try and be a fantasy girl, like those in the pictures, then it may be time to tell him good-bye.

Answer 4

Nudity is natural, sex is natural. Neither are gross unless those involved are gross.

Some porn in my oppinion is pretty gross, but there's a fair amount that I consider to be a work of art and a thing of beauty. I know plenty of women who appreciate porn as well, it's not just a guy thing.

On top of that, you could even learn a few things to try out from porn. Definately worth taking a look at rather than assuming it's gross because someone said so and you want to fit in. Go forth and experience things THEN decide for yourself. And just like you can have a gross meal if it's not done right, the same goes for porn. Don't stop at your first taste, try something else.

Answer 5

Hahahahahaha!! That's so funny because the first time I found my bf's porn stash it was in 4 different boxes, I was like...um, okay but now you have me so we can garbage this stuff (Now we watch porn together - no mags or anything like that - but it's kind of a turn on when you open your mind to it). Just talk to him about it, let him know it makes you a little uncomfortable and that you'd prefer if he kept it out of sight. Men are not just fascinated with porn per se, they are fascinated with women. We have far more beautiful bodies than they do and well, they like to look at it. But if you can help it, try not to let it bother you - it's natural for men/boys to be curious and incidentally enough, they require visual stimulation where us women are more about the feelings we have. So yeah, talk to him about it, don't argue - be open minded, just emphasize that it makes you uncomfortable and if he really cares about your opinion you may be surprised to find he'll let it all go to the garbage. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Why does it creep you out to think of your b/f masturbating? That's weird... Guys are visual, they like to watch people have sex... my b/f has a growing collection of porn, mostly movies... honestly, maybe you should watch them with him so you can see what all porn does for him, and what the big deal is... you might like it more than you think...

and if you think that he has too much porn, or is starting to become obsessed with it... if he can't get off without it, then it's definitely going to be a problem, but if he just watches it when he needs to get off and you're not around, what's the problem? At least it's not another girl... and at least he's not forcing you to do something you don't want... and guys will always like porn, because they're more visual-oriented than girls... just the facts...

Answer 7

I posted a similar question, but not that I was disgusted cuz he's a guy and their curiosity from age 13 on doesn't really change so I kinda accept it though it bothers me I mean I feel he should just be with me and all but turns out it doens't really mean anything as long as you both love eachother and you have a healthy sex life or relationship...I don't know if you're old enough to be sexually active yourself.

Answer 8

I mean I like porn like every other guy but a huge stash of it is alittle weird. I am not sure if I would tell him though. That might be embarassing to him..

Answer 9

My god what a prune you're. have faith me each and every commonly used guy looks at some style of porn or gets off in some way different then his female chum. Your fortunate he isn't at a strip joint or something. All adult adult males masturbate and whilst they do they're in all probability not thinking approximately there lady chum. hear probability is that it somewhat is his porn and in simple terms because of fact he looks at it does not propose that he does not care. adult adult males get no emotional exhilaration out of porn, its in simple terms in ordinary terms actual. in case you decide on a guy that doesn't watch porn finally end up a servery non secular guy­.

Answer 10

it disgust u because u wnt to b the only 1 that he thinks about like that. the reason for him haveing the stash is farely simple...hes a guy when testosterone builds up it can make u feel a bit edgy and sometimes aggresive an the best way to get rid of it is to.....
so dnt be to hard on him.