I wont cheat on my boyfriend?

Question

but we hardly have sex anymore, so i end up watching porn, but I end up feeling real guilty afterwards, I'm not religious or anything but I think I feel that way cuz I know its a sin, sometimes I feel like just messing around him, but I'm really not intrested in other guys I'm more attracted to girls, I'm not bi but I'm bi-curious. Is there something wrong with me for feeling this way

Answer 1

You sound completely normal to me. There's no reason to feel guilt about taking matters into your own hands;....if you know what I mean. Most people have to experience a sexual release occasionally, and if you don't do it consciously either with help from your lover, or by yourself, it will happen in your sleep.

There are some men and women who really are outraged by the thought of their woman being turned on by fantasizing about other women, but it turns most men and women on. So don't feel bad about that either, because it's completely normal.

But yes, there is something wrong with you for feeling this way. It wasn't your fault, but you were programmed to think that those things are wrong, by the culture that you grew up in. Think about this though. Who are you hurting? You are hurting no one, including yourself.

Regards,

Chris

Answer 2

Maybe it's time to say see ya to the boyfriend. He doesn't seem to care about YOUR needs. You do not need a man or a woman to get off. Even if you decided to choose to be a lesbian, the toys they use are shaped like a man so why not just start experimenting with some new toys for yourself first and learn what feels good for YOU. Having sexual tension sucks. Women are just an outlet for a man. When they get off, it's over and they don't really give a damm about you. They just roll over and go right to sleep. Until he's ready to give out, you have to suffer the lack of being touched, and or appreciated in any way. But don't deprive yourself just because he's not in the mood. The more independent you become, the better you'll feel about yourself. I don't really believe that you are attracted to girls. I think you are so worried about another man, it's seems safer to think about women. If my BF didn't have any sexual interest in me, he'd be gone. Who needs that kind of treatment. Sounds like he wants to control you , like he's the one and only. WRONG!!! He's going to learn the hard way in the end. Take care of yourself. Watching porno will only make you feel even more alone. Maybe try out a descent guy, not a selfish one! Your boyfriend sounds boring! I think it's more of a sin not to take of number one...you!