Do you spank your kids? Why or why not?

Question

I spank my kids on their behinds or on their hands when they are misbehaving. Never hard enough to leave marks because that would be messed up. I'm curious how other parents feel about this and how other parents discipline their own children. I have noticed that my children mind me more when I spank them, as opposed to when I just tell them NO.

Answer 1

Yes, I agree. You have let your children know that there is a line and DO NOT CROSS IT.

My husband and I spank our daughters when necessary. Usually when we get a step away from a spanking, we pull them aside and let them know their treading on thin ice. If they continue, then they have chosen the consequence, not us. I use all the new age methods, and if they work, that's where it stops, if not, then that's where a spanking comes in. I can tell you from experience both as a child and a parent, If you know how to give a good spanking (bare tush) your children will always pay closer attention once they approach that line. I have 3 daughters the oldest being 10, they all will do anything to prevent a spanking from taking place (Yes even the 10 year old) So in my mind they work GREAT as last line of defense.

Good Luck

Answer 2

maximum people who talk approximately bare backside spankings on indexed here are perverts/trolls with spanking fetishes. i don't understand all of us who particularly does that. I do have faith that spanking would be needed for babies at a undeniable age (approximately 2-5). for a new child that youthful nevertheless, the punishment could be good after the reality in any different case it particularly is ineffective because of the fact they have this way of short interest span, so taking time to undress them seems noticeably stupid. With an older new child, i don't think of you'll be spanking in any respect because of the fact they're the right age to be self extensive wide awake approximately their our bodies, plus they might desire to understand the regulations and hear you for the main area of you have been consistent with self-discipline from the time they have been youthful. and that they are the right age to lose privileges or get grounded. yet lower back, by a undeniable age it particularly is totally humiliating and degrading to smack a new child on the backside, and doing it bare might in simple terms be 10 cases worse. I agree that it particularly is ill, yet that individual you're speaking approximately in all probability replace right into a troll.

Answer 3

My son who is only 20 months old does get a spank on the bottom when he is not listening. We are also using the stand in the corner method, but at this age, he doesn't really get it or stay there. Once he understands time-outs, I don't think I'll spank him anymore but parent's who start diciplining at 3 or 4 its way too late! The spank never leaves him red or hurts, it just startles him to let him know what he did was wrong.
My mother used to use a woden spoon on us and we turned out to be respectful kids because of it.

Answer 4

i was spanked on the bottom only when i was a kid. and my parents stopped after the age of about 4 or 5 since at that point it wasn't really needed. i think i turned out pretty good and have way more discipline than i would hve had my parents not spanked. at some point i think kids don't like the spanking not because it hurts physically but what it implies - i'v done something wrong now i am in trouble. there is a big difference between spanking as discipline and spanking as abuse. it sounds like you know the difference and are treating your kids just fine. good for you.

Answer 5

YES YES YES i am sooooo pro the type of spanking you seem to use! they need to know limits and all that and there are really 2 types of ppl out there and children learn to fall into either category and usually swap as they mature. 1 u can tell them (an adult) nicely once and they do it, and 2 u have to practically hit them over head with a hammer to get them to do something.
all these ppl that don't spank i think they create all the BABY ADULTS that call me 911 cuz they can handle their flu, or become so weak and dependant! ahhhhhhh ooooh ok sorry tangent! lol.

i discipline as immediately following the behavior as i can to establish the relationship of bad. and i always try my best to clear my mind first and not be angry, and see that it is don't to clearly and efficiently convey to the child that the behavior was inappropriate and will not be tolerated. u know that part. so theres the opinion for u. yes, i agree totally with the way you do it. its the handful of bad parents that are not consistant, or severely attach their emotional rage with the spanking that makes it a bad thing. becuz the added emotion is translated negatively and is not as clear to the child especially a younger one. i'm not sayin don't raise your voice, i just mean not to get carried away.

Answer 6

i was spanked when i was little and thats when i really knew that my parents werent joking and i respected them more i dont think spanking is bad but then again other people do but if u dont like spanking ur kids theres a time out and things like that but again i dont think its as effective as spanking it really teaches the kids that they are misbehaving and ur the adult

Answer 7

i was spanked when i was little... and i turned out to be a great person. i think kids sometimes need a little spank to get the word across... some kids will not listen to NO, just give them a little spank. spanking is okay as long as it doesn't turn into physical abuse or spanking for every little thing the kid did wrong

Answer 8

yes, i think i really needed to get spanked as i was bad and my mother got angry at that moment. That little girl is my neighbor and she visited us before i get spanked. She seems that not care to see my half nake body. However, do you think a boy aged 9 can be spanked like that in front of a little girl?

I was asked to stay naked in front of that little girl for half hour.

I believe that I will spank my kids if they misbehave. But not very often and the nude part infront of the little girl is not needed.

Answer 9

If you don't spank your kids their never going to learn respect. They will not understand that the choices they make in life come with consequences that they must live with. A lot of people in jail will tell you that they wish their parents would have disciplined them as a kid.

Answer 10

I believe that discipline is teaching. My job is NOT to make my kids mind me but to help them learn to be good adults. I always have my lesson in mind. Why don't we lie? Not because mom will spank me or put me in time out, but because no one will listen to me, my words will lose their power. So THAT is what I teach. I use discussions and natural consequences. If my 4-yr-old lies, I pretend not to believe anything he says for the rest of the day. We talk about needing to be heard and believed. Time out is a break to collect ourselves and get control of our emotions. I never spank, it teaches nothing except that I am bigger and stronger. A cild who has been spanked often feels victimized or bullied, even if it was little more than a tap. The lesson is lost in the teaching. I have slapped both of my children's hands one time each, when they went for an outlet. That hurts, and it should. I did spank my 4-yr-old once when he unbuckled his seat belt in the car. The sheer shock because I had never done it before and the discussion afterward taught him the lesson I meant to and he still asks if he can unbuckle his seat after the car has been shut off. Just telling a child no will never work, there needs to be a why. I discipline with respect and love, I treat my chilren the way I would if they were the adults they will become and always keep my lesson in mind.