3 Bridal Registries a bit much?

Question

My brother and his fiance have registered at three different bridal registries. They are asking for everything from the $600 wine glasses to the $1.99 salad tongs. I think this makes them seem very greedy. When I got married (eloped) he gave me nothing because he says I didn't have the "big wedding". I'm thinking of returning the gesture. What do you think is three a bit much?

Answer 1

I think any is tacky and rude. I would never have a bridal registry. the things you need you should by yourself. guests should have the option of asking if there is anything you need or buying you whatever they want or giving money of giving nothing. asking for $1.99 salad tongs just makes someone look cheap. buy that yourself. I think you are right about it looking greedy. 1 is one thing. I can handle that, but 3? I mean one person on here already said about just starting out in life...well here is an idea...if you cant afford things for your home then skip the wedding and the nyou will have money to buy them. How rude of this person to think it is up to her guests to fill her home with things she wants. it makes me sick that people like this are allowed to marry. they miss the whole point of a wedding...TO GET MARRIED... I would return the gesture if I were you and give nothing. my brother and his gf came to my wedding and gave nothing and were in a horrible mood to whole time. I plan to give them nothing in return if they ever marry.

Answer 2

I think that you can have however many you want. I mean what is it to you. If you are still upset that he didn't get you anything then tell him that you aren't buying him anything because he did have the "big wedding." Just because he has 3 registries doesn't mean he is greedy. He might've picked 3 different storesso that their could be three different price ranges. Not to be greedy or like in my case, I am going to have 3 different registries and it is not because I am greedy. My first registry that we did is a honeymoon registry at Sandals that can only be purchased online. Our second one is at Crate and Barrel. I love this store and I find that they have very good prices but unfortunately their is not one in my state. So I put this up for people who do like to shop online and are comfortable with it. And for my last registry I did it at Linens N Things so that older people or people who don't like to shop online can actually go to the store and make their purchases. Plus most registries give you like a percentage off for like 60 days on all of your registry items that people do not purchase so that you can get them for cheap. That could be a reason too. But you are supposed to put various price ranges because hey you never really know somebody may buy those $600 wine glasses while somebody else may only be able to buy a salad tosser. So no I do not think 3 is too much but I do think that you should return the gesture.

Answer 3

No, it's not excessive. My sister-in-law had 3 registries, but not all of them were long and there were different price ranges. Linens & Things for bedding, Target for kitchen stuff, and Pier One for decorative stuff. Your brother definitely should have considered it important to give you a gift when you got married (eloped or not) if he obviously thinks it's a big enough thing to register for $600 wine glasses. I agree with the person above -- go with the $1.99 salad tongs and call it a day. He'll get your point.

Answer 4

There is no limit on how many registry's a couple can have. We personally have like 5. But there is a reason behind it. I don't think that you should tell everyone about all the registry's. I have multiple registry's because between our family's and friends, everyone is in a different income range. I picked out my dishes, flatware and glasses at Belk and just did multiples of sheets, towels, other kitchen utensils everywhere else. So, when someone asks my Mom where I'm registered at, she can give them the name of a couple places she knows they can afford. If I only registered at Belk and Dillard, some people can't even get to those stores. That is why I'm registered at Wal-Mart and Target. Get the drift? Having multiple registry's if fine, telling everyone about all of the them is the tacky part.

Answer 5

That is a bit much most people register at two to give people a choice on where to shop.

I would still get him a gift because its (the right thing to do) however, get him the cheapest gift on the list like the salad tongs. LOL that'll get him yet your still being proper.

Also, you don't have to get him what is on the registry. Besides I really do not think that registry is that great.

I went to a brial shower where the bride was registered at Famous and Target well, everyone used the registry and she got like 2 and 3 of everything. Pretty funny.

Answer 6

I was actually told by every book and place that you should have at least 2 or 3 registries. It's not about greed it's about letting people pick stores that are close and convenient for them. And it sounds like his registry ranges properly- items ranging in a different amount.

I don't think he is greedy, I think you are jealous and being very bitter about it. So what he didn't get you a gift and you did elope, most men don't give gifts without a wedding...... Can't you be a bigger person??

Answer 7

I don't think three is much at all, it gives the guest a nice selection (different price ranges for different folks as well). If you're going to give him nothing, that's all on you...whatever you feel is appropriate. I do however think it was a bit rude of your brother to tell you that you don't get a gift because you didn't have a big wedding.

Answer 8

They probably registered at different places to give their guests all a chance to buy something. What they can't afford to buy at one store they may be able to get at another. But $600 wine glasses to seem a bit much. In any case there is always the gift card option.

Answer 9

no. i had 2. and we registered for everything as well. thats pretty rude for you to say that people are greedy. maybe they are like me and are just starting out in life and need thoes things for their new home. the more places you register at the more options people have and a wide varity of price ranges. that way everyone can give them something if they wanted. dont judge someone on what they have put in their registries just because you didnt do the same thing.

Answer 10

haven't you ever gone to a wedding and all the things on a registry were already bought for the couple? that is why people register at several stores. also if guests are from out of town maybe they don't have a target or a pier 1 in their town so its easier to get some thing at linens and things.

also, if you'd ever registered for gifts (you'd probably have gotten one from your brother) and you'd know that its the bride and groom wandering around a store scanning things that they want and need, they are probably kidding around and laughing and scanning stuff that they want but KNOW that no one would ever get them (such as the $600 wine glasses)

i know that is what my fiancee and i did. we thought it'd be funny to put completely random things on there to make our family laugh, i know my aunt isn't going to buy me a $400 ice cream maker.

have you talked to your brother, it seems like you are angry at him about not getting you a gift and you're taking your anger out in the wrong way. tell him to buy you a gift and the problem is SOLVED!