How to forgive him?

Question

This guy at my school sexually harrassed me last year. Then he got expelled for doing something else. So i never said anything last year. But this year he's back at school and so now whenever i see him i get scared. I want to forgive him but i dont really know how i can. Anyone got any adivce?

Answer 1

...It's nice that you want to forgive him here honey...(it's really big of you truly...God forgives people too...) but understand that you already have forgiven him in your heart. You owe this guy nothing otherwise. Sounds more like he owes you an apology and an explanation of why he did this sexual harassment thing really. Does he normally have an attitude with most women? Did you ever find out what he got expelled for darling? It might be critical to know this information possibly. I'm thinking hopefully or possibly he's turned a corner in his life possibly. Only the administration dept knows for certain. He IS back in school after all...so what's up with that? Find out honey...but keep to yourself in relationship to this guy anyways. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you are feeling scared you need to tell an adult. Speak to the counselor, a trusted teacher and/or your mom. You need to sit down and face him and tell him what he did to you was wrong and explain how it makes you feel when you see him. He will then need to apologize, keep in mind that you can't make him do that, but at least he'll admit what he did and that will allow you to move on. No one has a right to violate you and you deserve not to live in fear. Good luck.

Answer 3

You can forgive...but you can't forget. I would speak up to someone at your school either teacher or principle...a guy who sexually harrassed you should be let known so he doesn't do it again. I don't blame you for being scared, but not speaking up doesn't help it. Please please tell someone before he does it to someone else again! Also be careful where you go...always let a friend know where you are or walk with a friend to places you go! Take care.